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Dec 25, 2019 at 08:04 AM
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A co worker gave me a gift card for... $5.00.
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Dec 25, 2019 at 08:55 AM
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I don't like getting various "decorative" items. I prefer getting practical things. Everytime I get a porcelain statue of an angel or something similar my first thought is that I'll need to dust it regularly or store it in the bottom drawer for a few years (It's a gift, I should keep it out of politeness) and then donate or throw it away. I hate useless stuff, I prefer my living space to be clean and simple.
However I am never offended by a gift I don't like. To me, gifts aren't important at all and I never expect anything big or special from anyone. I see gift exchange as something annoying and useless anyway. I do care about people and if I see that someone needs something, I'd give them everything possible to help them or express my gratitude etc. But I hate when gifts are given just because it's a certain date and there's mass hysteria about who spends most money on gifts. It's absolutely sick and crazy. __________________ Complex trauma Highly sensitive person I love nature, simplicity and minimalism |
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Dec 25, 2019 at 09:06 AM
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My husband bought me three blouses that look way too big for me. They also look a bit church lady, for my taste, and I don't like that they all have t-shirt style collars. I prefer v-necks or other styles. I will likely exchange them for something else.
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Dec 25, 2019 at 09:19 AM
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Dec 25, 2019 at 09:28 AM
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I was irritated once to get a gift card for some deli that I had never heard of and I dont even like delis. Like people were like, that's a great gift, and I was like, it seems really specific and also requires me to like drive across town to use, and also I was still struggling with agoraphobia even worse than now and so I was just irritated. I tried to be okay with it, and not show my disappointment but like it just wasnt something I cared for. I wasnt trying to be ungrateful but it was that whole white elephant game and to me it was a lame gift. I felt like gift cards should be excluded from white elephant. I mean, if it's for a store that the person doesn't shop at or like, then it's kind of a crappy gift, right? I was bummed. Then I felt bad bc the person who bought it felt bummed he got a bad gift. And I'm like, it's just a bad gift for me, that's all. That's the game. It's okay.
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Dec 25, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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I don't know if there is one but I wish there was like a facebook like website that you could list things that you do want.. so people who wanted to give you gifts could get the things that truly would make you happy. Like a baby registry.
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Dec 25, 2019 at 03:37 PM
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I’m honestly glad if someone actually thought to wrap up a gift for me , even if it’s some kind of oops I need a gift stash ” I use to get a lot of candles personally I’m just happy to receive a card, those candles??! I’ve collected over the years has help me when the power goes out.
But I was thrilled when my husband gave me a fantastic vacuum for me one Christmas about 5 years ago. LOL , the best vacuum I’ve ever owned. This year the only gift I have recieved is a beautiful card from my husband that means more than anything else. None of his 3 boys over the last 16 years have ever given me a card let alone a gift. My daughter use to ... but financially she’s unable the last few years, she need to save her money for bills etc. It doesn’t matter to me if I get a gift or or not. I really feel Christmas is for children. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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Dec 25, 2019 at 04:57 PM
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Well it happened to me. I spent a couple hundred dollars on gift cards and nice toys for my sister and brother in law and their 2 kids and I get a golden girl action figure (a show I don’t watch) and 2 Wizard Of Oz action figures.
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Dec 25, 2019 at 06:01 PM
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Dec 26, 2019 at 05:32 AM
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I mean the only case I was offended was when our family who live n Australia brought us a bag full of second hand clothes that looked like they were from the 70-80s... It was to express that we're poor and need charity of this kind (they also made various stupid remarks during their stay here). But when it's Christmas and someone buys me a useless item, I would never get offended or irritated since I don't even expect anything special. In my family, we canceled the whole stupid commercial craze. No presents for anyone and it's a huge relief  I only buy or receive Christmas gifts very occasionally in case I have a friend who is for some season obsessed with gifts.
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Dec 26, 2019 at 10:46 AM
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But you have to admit when you give $50 amazon and target gift cards and get dolls in return it is kind of silly. Plus I’m offended for other reasons.
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Dec 27, 2019 at 01:59 AM
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The oranges were more than enough to make them happy. Nowadays, everyone has everything they need so nothing is good enough and people can't be genuinely happy anymore. That's why gifts to adults have lost meaning. Edit : this absolutely wasn't meant about you, Mountaindewed. I would certainly be disappointed in your place. You've put me money and thought into the gifts than they. So how you felt was understandable. What i wrote about her was about about gifts in general. It wasn't personally about you 😊 __________________ Complex trauma Highly sensitive person I love nature, simplicity and minimalism Last edited by seeker33; Dec 27, 2019 at 02:31 AM.. |
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Dec 27, 2019 at 01:26 PM
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My father in laws girlfriend out did herself this year. My husband and I can't stand her but her gifts are usually okay. She jumped on the "are you having kids yet" wagon and wow.....shes very insensitive. She said to me and my hubs this little gem " wouldn't it be easier if you could just buy a baby". My hubs had to keep me from decking her. The icing on the cake was getting new bed sheets so "we can make babies on clean sheets". That was what she said. I was floored. For one who does that? I might be a bit of a stick in the mud on this but why would you give a gift like that? What if my hubs and I had trouble or lost the child? It certainly wouldn't be funny. I had the worst forced smile because it was in front of my husband's family. We actually are expecting but it's too early and we don't plan on announcing until February. We plan on regifting the sheets ( hubs was very embarrassed about it too)
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