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Default Jun 15, 2020 at 04:21 AM
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tell me about it.. who is in it, what kind of people

most of my friendship circle are women from the U.S.A, a good majority of them are christian, or they have the conditions that I have (making it easy to talk to them). I also have a few friends who like amusement parks (like me), and I also know a couple technology people who love computers and can help answer my questions

over 90 percent of my friendship circle is online, with a very small amount of real life friends

so tell about your circle. who's in it. mainly on or offline. do these people share your interests. etc etc
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Default Jun 15, 2020 at 06:28 AM
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I've lost all my friends irl. I only have acquaintances. Which I struggle with.

There are 3 women I have known for 22 years and 17 years and 15 years through a volunteering role we all shared we worked at Barnardo's as play leaders for children and young people with disabilities.

There are 3 women I have know for under 10 years I met through mental health.

There are 5 women and 1 guy I met through current volunteering as a Peer Recovery Volunteer. So we all have lived experiences of mental health

The only real friend I have is my Twin. That's pretty pathetic. I lost my 10 friends when I became ill and list my job. I guess I'm more acquaintance material than friend material
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Default Jun 15, 2020 at 08:53 PM
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I don't have any "friends" per se in real life. Mostly the people I communicate with are online. When I did have friends, they varied in backgrounds and ages. I met them all through Meetup groups I belonged to. With COVID those Meetup groups are stalled since they can't meet in person.

Once this COVID thing is over-with (will it ever be?), I plan to get involved in Meetup groups again to restart my social life. Online friendships are good, even when you can video chat with each other, but not being in person together to go to coffee etc. is weird.
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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 01:39 AM
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I guess IRL I have maybe three friends. But they are all busy and one lives three hours away, so, I have rare contact with them All my real support is here on PC, people I consider to be those who now, at present, know me the best, by far. So grateful for you guys.

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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 07:55 AM
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I’ve always had 2-3 close IRL girlfriends, and a boyfriend (or now husband). I have many online friends here on PC.

I’ve ended relationships (it was mutual) with three really close friends. This bothers me a bit, while it probably doesn’t bother them at all. One was a childhood friend who fell out of contact with me. I didn’t nurture it and neither did she. Why not? Another was a best friend from early childhood until after college. There wasn’t really a falling out. It was more again, just going separate ways and maybe not liking each other anymore? The other was a lifelong friend who turned into a frenemy. I think she has major issues, and she thinks I do.

My current friends are a mutual friend of the ‘frenemy’, who I grew up with. We lost contact for our whole lives of raising kids, until recent reconnection. We talk nearly every day, but she never wants to get together, even though I am willing to drive to see her. it’s a kind, supportive, loving friendship, so I’m confused. The other I have known for around ten years. We do things together as couples and I have done things just together with she and I. It’s a very good relationship all around. Both friends are of similar backgrounds to me. We relate.

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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 01:52 PM
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Well...my husband is my friend.

I have 3 girlfriends with whom I grew up. So we've known each other for over 50 years (or more). I treasure them, but "see" them almost solely on Facebook. There's 1 I talk with on the phone every now and then.

I'm still in touch (online) with many of the people I went through school with, but they are acquaintances that I see only every 5 or 10 years at high school reunions.

There are a few I've been in NAMI groups with, but I very seldom see them.

So in real life, only my husband.

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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 03:13 PM
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i'm quite bored with people. then again i don't get out much so don't meet anyone outside of work.

i don't really vibe with many people. it's pretty disappointing to me. at the same time, i have really low self esteem and need to work on getting out there more. i don't think i'll really vibe with anyone though. i'm not sure i was made to have friends.
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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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Not much for me. I only have one friend and he's 84 years old. He has physical limits, so there's not much he can do. He can't come to visit me. The only way for me to see him is to go to his place and I'm not crazy about doing that.

I have one friend from college (which was many decades ago!). He and I are 3000 miles apart. We just email each other. There's not much of a chance that he and I will see each other.

I only have my sister as family. I know that this thread about friends. She also lives 3000 miles away. We talk once a week. It's not very exciting. I wish I had more contacts with my family.

And I also wish I had more friends. I don't care for having a lot of friends; I'm very satisfied with having 1-3 good friends at a time. I wish I had a friend who would be around my age instead of what I have now. I'm not very good at getting out and making friends and I feel that I have been that way all of my life.
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Default Jun 17, 2020 at 02:02 AM
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I have several unrelated circles of friends which is amazing because when I left my bad marriage & moved across the country to the little farm I bought, I didn't know anyone in the little town of 8000.

Met people in the horse community & we formed a group that rides & socializes together. We also have helped with horse rescue which put us in touch with the leaders & law enforcement so we personally know each other. Not at friendship level but it sure helps to know the people to go to when something needs taken care of in the community.

I did volunteer work at the horse park when wr had the world equestrian games in Ky (2010) the team I worked with does the floral decorations for an annual show & we also get involved with the dressage association shows & volunteer work....awesome team & many I stay in touch with throughout the year.

I met some lady's through a bible study I went to for years & we were really close & did lots of things together but we are drifting apart though we stay in contact.

I also have wonderful friends through the churches I have gone to & am going to.

Awesome neighbors own farms around me & I have gotten to know many of them.

I also have a wonderful group ofbfriends from the DBT group I went to for years. We get together for just fun at times still.

Having many circles & lots of involvements it kinda spreads friends out & some don't even know the others but my life has alwsys been very diverse & limiting friends to only certain areas just doesn't work.

All this & I am also caring for my own farm, the farm where I have my horse & my neighbor's farm (both owners live out of state)

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Default Jun 17, 2020 at 02:19 AM
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I have a fairly large circle of IRL friends but only about 5 I get together with regularly. Almost all I have known since grade school with a couple of exceptions that I made at work. My closest friends and I have almost no shared interests but still get along great it just works. Maybe because we have so many shared experiences because we grew up together??

Most of my online friends I made here so we share certain things in common. Other than FB and Pogo(a game site) this is the only forum I belong to

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No real life friendship circle but 3 people I talk to on the internet (and that could shrink at any random moment) and an old childhood friend who I catch up with every few months.
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Default Jun 21, 2020 at 07:03 AM
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Well to be frank, I do not really bother with people in general, the result I would not say I know people as friends. I was never at all good with small talk even back in school days. I would recognize a few folks from time to time and nod or maybe a wave, but don't stop to say hello or chat. I am quite comfortable at that.

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Default Jun 21, 2020 at 02:15 PM
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I stopped chasing people for their friendship. Noticeably, none of those people reached out to me to stay in contact with them, when I stopped chasing them. One-way fair-weather friendships aren't for me. No one has ever pursued me to be their friend. I can't change who I am (nor should I). If no one ever chooses to reach out to me, then I know they were never really a friend -- but just an acquaintance. I'm still waiting for real friendships with people. I hope those happen.
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Default Jun 28, 2020 at 09:35 PM
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I stick with old friend that I have for a while. They consist of people that I can learn from that uplifts me. Like minded friends is a must, when it comes down to morals, values and faith. My oldest friend is 75 years old. That is my spiritual godmother. Love her. She begged me to get baptized. So happy I did. discernment and wisdom is a must. You need that in this evil world.

I became very selective as I got older and wiser.

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Got two really close friends, we play video games often and we mostly enjoy online communication
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