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Jul 23, 2020 at 07:12 PM
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How did your life change after you turned 40, if it changed at all? Taking a big step into a new chapter, and I'm just curious what others have to say. 😊
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Jul 23, 2020 at 07:21 PM
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I'm 37, and this is so cliche, but I noticed that the older I get, the wiser I get. Also fitting in is much less important to me. At the same time, I fit in much better than when I was younger.
Congrats on your new chapter! 
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Jul 23, 2020 at 09:56 PM
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Thank you! I've gone through some major changes within the past year. I turned 40 earlier this month, and I guess I'm really just trying to figure out where I fit. Like you, I'm not interested in fitting IN, necessarily. Just, quite honestly, trying to find what fits for me now... In regards to life in general.
I'm single for the first time in my adult life. I was a caregiver for a very long time. My mom has passed recently. I have 3 grown children. And, I also have a 4 year old. But I guess what I'm saying is that I have never had this much freedom to understand myself and what I mean to myself. Some days I'm excited, but other days I'm terrified. I laughed when I typed that last sentence. Probably because it amuses me that I'm 40 and feeling a bit like when I was 20 and venturing out on my own. |
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Jul 24, 2020 at 12:53 AM
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Life between 42 & 54 was horrible but as soon as I left my husband when I was 54, it wad like I finally started living my own life & I have never been so happy & at peace. Finally I am who I am without having to fight for everything. Life is good for the first time.
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Jul 24, 2020 at 02:22 AM
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When I turned 40 I noticed my hair started to go! That was 4 years ago. Been serious though, I would say I wised up a lot. I pay attention to myself instead of putting myself out to help others all the time. The most evident thing I suppose been am finally stopped worrying about what everyone thought of me. Nowadays I look after myself first and make no apology for that.
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Jul 24, 2020 at 05:53 AM
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Honestly.. I think it is better.
- I have more money than my 30s. - More wisdom than my 30s - More freedom than my 30s (no more parents to take care of) - After around 47, no more TOM. The only draw back is now almost everything could be deadly so I tend to go to the doctor more. When you can you should travel. |
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Jul 24, 2020 at 05:56 AM
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40? OMG!
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Jul 24, 2020 at 08:01 AM
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Well I became an empty nester, my daughter started college that year. I got my masters at 40. Yes a little late I’d say but I have two only vaguely related bachelor degrees. So I had masters kind of sitting on a back burner. I also got a new job. Well it’s the same job as I always had just in a different school system and I am still in that system at 54. So I guess a lot happened at 40.
Ooo I guess I read in a rush and a question was about my 40s. I thought it was about the year of turning 40! |
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Jul 24, 2020 at 09:04 AM
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You all are awesome. I just feel a sense of calm knowing that this is the beginning of a wonderful time in my life. Hey, I can do it all the way I want for once in my life. Does that ever get old? Having that freedom? I hope not.
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Jul 24, 2020 at 10:26 AM
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It’s a wonderful time. For sure.
I actually like my 50s too. Maybe even more than 40s. |
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Jul 24, 2020 at 01:49 PM
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As far as my bipolar illness, at least my psychiatric hospitalizations stopped as of my 40s. That was good. I did slow down a lot, partially because of my medications, a little because I was out of shape, and I suppose also because I grew a bit older. I was always super speedy.
I never had children, so my experience may be different than that of those who have some. I became disabled when I was in my late 30s. That affected my spouse's and my standard of living a bit. Like some of the posters, I do believe I had an increase in wisdom starting in my 40s. Not that I was ignorant or stupid before, but I learned what the true value of life is. At least to me. Many of my priorities changed for the better. |
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Jul 24, 2020 at 03:10 PM
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39-41 were two of the best years of my life, mentally and physically. They were fun years.
42-49 was interesting...a lot of changes...mental health was not great. 50-53 were the roughest years of my life since the age of 13. 54-to now (57)...I feel mentally much stronger and more stable. Physically, life has been challenging in some ways. Mostly pain issues. The great part now is that I can set healthy boundaries so much more easily than I could even a few years ago. i.e., I now believe I'm worth taking care of. So for me, 40 was terrific, 50 was a rough transition. But that's just me and my personal life circumstances. __________________ |
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Jul 25, 2020 at 01:12 AM
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I had 2 children after the age of 40 (41 and 43).
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Jul 27, 2020 at 03:10 PM
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I'm 49 and still trying to find out who I am. I still don't know. I may never know.
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Jul 27, 2020 at 04:14 PM
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Hi ....I'd like to reply ....after I turned 40 I started getting allergic to pollen started getting sinus headaches and infections,heat started affecting me ....( Never needed an air conditioner before then until I passed out one day from the heat)...and mid 40s I slowed down Alot ....ok that's physical stuff ...oh also sciatic pain ( which I do stretches for now ).. .I'm sorry physically I sound like it's all bad ....
I would love to say physically things get better ..... But I wanted to reply honestly at least what changed for me after 40. Sure everyone has different experiences Thanks for letting me reply. Please be safe everyone |
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