[SpazKatt]

My fiance is away at Police Academy. It's been a week now since he's been away. 3 days in he called me an said that he was thinking of dropping out. The reason he gave me was that he was concerned about the tough family life that we would have. I was very touched, but told him no way would I let him drop out for "me". I realize that our family life won't be easy, but really what is a normal family life these days anyway. We live in a smaller town in north eastern AZ, so it's not like he's going to be a working for a larger city like Phoenix.

I saw him this weekend and he looked like crap, and seemed pretty down. Apparently he's rethinking if he really wants to be a cop anymore. This makes me sad, because we can't afford for him not to do this. We just signed the lease on a nicer, but more expensive apartment because he got this job. I want to be supportive, and I don't know if I'm being supportive in the right way.

This has been really hard on me and made me quite emotional, I've been crying everyday. Only four more months I guess.

[sabby]

Oh dear....from what I understand Police Academy is quite difficult. Since it's only his first week, they have been working hard to break him down so they can turn around and build him up.

I don't think he's giving this a fair shot yet. I know it's tough work and I'm sure he's hurting physically and emotionally right now. But this too should pass.

Remember, nothing worth having in life is easy and imagine the self esteem he'll feel when he goes all the way through it and survives to tell about it

I do so hope he finds the strength to continue...sounds to me like he's grasping at reasons for him to quit because he is tired.....

Wishing you both well!


sabby

[SpazKatt]

Thanks so much for your support, I appreciate it!

[sabby]

Most welcome (((((((( Spazkatt ))))))))))

[SpazKatt]

It doesn't just make me sad because of the money, I really like the thought of him being a police officer. It makes me feel safe and turns me on... is that wrong?

[sabby]

Not at all hon....not wrong at all.

I'm sure you both must have talked about this before he got the job and went off to training. Of course being an officer's wife is difficult...and on the kids and hubby too, but many families go through this and survive just fine. There are usually lots of supports within the police community too...so that is something to look forward to.

If the idea of him being a cop makes you feel safer and has the added benefit of making him more alluring and sexy to you....then you go with it