Anyone freak out when they are going to have people over?

rdgrad15 · Nov 09, 2020 at 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Purple box euphoria

I can't help it.

I will try to excuse myself if there are visitors coming to our house. I will let my partner entertain them no matter if they are friends or family. If sometimes I had no choice but to talk with them, after almost 20 minutes being with the crowd, I feel my energy is draining already and I would eventually try to pretend that I'm not there and ignore them all. Of course I know that's rude, I feel bad, but I have to do it to preserve myself from overwhelming and blowing my head off. It's never easy having this condition.

I totally get it. Unless I am with a very close friend or someone else I really like, I hate interacting with company. I will be alone as much as I possibly can. I keep conversations short and simple. I don't reveal too much of my personal life even if it is family. They don't need to know my personal life. I totally understand where you're coming from.

MuseumGhost · 06:02 PM

Dear sarahsweets, Please, won't you tell us how your gathering went, and how you did what you needed to do? I see the post is from August.

My short answer to your question is: Yes. But the opportunity doesn't arise very much.

I have no children; husband's work schedule is nuts; friends don't cross the border to come see me since I left the States; my in-laws are either too far away or complete anti-social types. So I live in relative undisturbed, unbroken quiet.

Mental, and now physical, ill health have made it tough for me to have drop-in visitors. So it just doesn't happen.

Besides which, in my experience, the warmest, most welcoming houses I've ever been in have been places where REAL people lived...kitchen mess, imperfect carpets, mis-matched towels, even a hastily made bed, always a reality. People can see past the surface, and appreciate people who are authentic and caring.

You're not alone, miss sarah! Anyone who has any kind of domicile knows there's work involved. And lots of it, quite often.

Wishing you peace and calm.

sarahsweets · Nov 12, 2020 at 05:22 AM

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Originally Posted by MuseumGhost

Dear sarahsweets, Please, won't you tell us how your gathering went, and how you did what you needed to do? I see the post is from August.

My short answer to your question is: Yes. But the opportunity doesn't arise very much.

I have no children; husband's work schedule is nuts; friends don't cross the border to come see me since I left the States; my in-laws are either too far away or complete anti-social types. So I live in relative undisturbed, unbroken quiet.

Mental, and now physical, ill health have made it tough for me to have drop-in visitors. So it just doesn't happen.

Besides which, in my experience, the warmest, most welcoming houses I've ever been in have been places where REAL people lived...kitchen mess, imperfect carpets, mis-matched towels, even a hastily made bed, always a reality. People can see past the surface, and appreciate people who are authentic and caring.

You're not alone, miss sarah! Anyone who has any kind of domicile knows there's work involved. And lots of it, quite often.

Wishing you peace and calm.

Hey I’m so sorry I didn’t come back to this thread. Life got in the way. I’m on my phone now but will get on the laptop after my daughter goes to school and thoroughly update everyone.

Prycejosh1987 · Dec 05, 2020 at 11:55 AM

Just be yourself and relax, having someone over is a good thing, its even better for you because its your backyard.

Bipolarchic14 · Dec 05, 2020 at 01:31 PM

I don’t even invite people over and when someone tries to come over unexpectedly I hide, literally. It’s really bad. I want to be seen as a normal person, but then I do stupid ***** like that!

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Prycejosh1987 Member Member Since Jul 2020 Location: UK Posts: 368 3	Dec 05, 2020 at 11:55 AM #24 Just be yourself and relax, having someone over is a good thing, its even better for you because its your backyard.
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Bipolarchic14 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2014 Location: Over there Posts: 1,076 10 354 hugs given	Dec 05, 2020 at 01:31 PM #25 I don’t even invite people over and when someone tries to come over unexpectedly I hide, literally. It’s really bad. I want to be seen as a normal person, but then I do stupid ***** like that!
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