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I am 55 years old and I lost my boyfriend of 4 years to cancer 3 weeks ago and I'm not handling it well. I lost my husband to cancer 8 years ago. I have zero interest in looking to my future. No interest in people. And I absolutely do not want to participate in the holidays. I keep trying to tell myself that my depression is temporary. But I will never get close enough to anyone to go through that again. The heartache just isn't worth it.
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__________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Sorry for your loss. I understand as I feel like you. I've lost someone close to me and live with the pain every day. No one understands grief until they lose someone they love.
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I've not been through what you're experiencing, just sending hugs.
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I am so sorry for your losses
Do you have grief support in your area? I tried three different groups in my area. It helped. The hospital social worker told me about one, a friend told me about one at a nearby church, and I found the third one by online search. I hope you have something like this where you are. Most of the young widows lost their spouse to cancer that I met. I lost mine too to cancer. |
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I am sorry for the losses you have faced. That must be heart wrenching to go through.
Feel free to reply or pm me. I lost my dad a year ago and my heart still aches only less. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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I lost my second husband too. It's been 3.5 years and since he died i feel so utterly alone. We have grown children as well as Grandchildren and they are too busy for me. Trying to change how my brain thinks...as I feel there is no one who cares about me at all. Being a widow means you lose everything for me.
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shelda, sorry for your loss. Words do not express how difficult that must be.
Here is an article that may be of interest On Grief, Loss and Coping __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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