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Default Jul 20, 2018 at 09:42 PM
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Has anyone found this helpful? One on one or in a group? I'm really struggling and desperately need to get myself some further help.
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Default Jul 21, 2018 at 10:50 AM
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sorry to say i can't actually help, Poe; but i hope you find just the right person to support you thru this terrible time~

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Default Jul 23, 2018 at 11:35 AM
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My sons aunt did have grief counseling years ago, as did many in her immediate family. They branched off from there with individual therapy and other ways of coping with their grieving experience. I know she now belongs to a specifically geared support group and it's been beneficial for her.
I know there are groups I could have joined for survivors of losing a loved one to cancer. I utilized individual therapy and family.
I also could have utilized in person support groups for dv survivors. But who would have watched my kids? I utilized individual counseling as well as prior to pc, online support.

I went to Alanon for a point in time...
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I'm currently in therapy for grief, if that's what you mean. I think it's definitely helpful but it depends on what you need I think. I'm currently trying to process my grief 2 years after losing my brother because I didn't process it at the time. For me, I've disassociated and relearning that feeling emotions is okay and how to deal with them in a healthy way. It's been frustrating because I don't see much of an improvement, I just feel crappy all the time but my T told me that it's going to feel worse and then get better.

It might be good to talk it out loud whether it's one on one or in a group. It sort of helps being around people that understand what you're going through, instead of getting the pity eyes from those that don't quite understand. It doesn't hurt to try and see if it works for you?
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I have done grief support groups. They tend to focus more on coping skills but having others who are grieving helps feeling understood and empathized with.

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i prefer one on one counseling. you might also consider hotlines or warmlines as you never know when the grief will hit. i hope you will be okay. take care.
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Hi Guys ,

As many of you know I lost my parents and can not grieve there loss , I have Complicated Grief Syndrome .

I just took the "grief" test and scored a 52 , high for anyone suffering a loss.

I can only speak for me , one on one therapy has saved my life so far ,I did go to one group and all they did was talk about how bad they feel , I thought no kidding , so how to I get better ?

There were no answers , just stupid people wanting something.

There are days I am up and days I just want to go for the long ride , and say screw it.

If I were not in therapy , I probably would have taken that long ride , I still want to sometimes , but I remain.

Days are so lonely , and I am always thinking of things I should have said , things that might have saved my life when they were alive , but all that is gone now.

Having Complicated Grief Syndrome is hard enough , but when you toss in the dysphoria of me being trans , the anxiety and depression , I so often wonder why I am here , why me.

I am nothing special , I just try to help , sometimes I can`t do that .

Soon I wil not be able to do anything , and then there really is only one logical choice.

Just needed to write somewhere , I now , what a downer , yeh , that`s me.

Catch you guy`s later thanks for listening to me type : LOL

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what do you mean by that keyplayer?
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Has anyone found this helpful? One on one or in a group? I'm really struggling and desperately need to get myself some further help.
I believe so. I wish my parents had found a grief counselor when I was nine. Have you thought about a grief journal?
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Great advice!I wish that I had thought about that myself!
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My sons aunt did have grief counseling years ago, as did many in her immediate family. They branched off from there with individual therapy and other ways of coping with their grieving experience. I know she now belongs to a specifically geared support group and it's been beneficial for her.
I know there are groups I could have joined for survivors of losing a loved one to cancer. I utilized individual therapy and family.
I also could have utilized in person support groups for dv survivors. But who would have watched my kids? I utilized individual counseling as well as prior to pc, online support.

I went to Alanon for a point in time...
I'm still looking for grief counselor myself.
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I'm currently in therapy for grief, if that's what you mean. I think it's definitely helpful but it depends on what you need I think. I'm currently trying to process my grief 2 years after losing my brother because I didn't process it at the time. For me, I've disassociated and relearning that feeling emotions is okay and how to deal with them in a healthy way. It's been frustrating because I don't see much of an improvement, I just feel crappy all the time but my T told me that it's going to feel worse and then get better.

It might be good to talk it out loud whether it's one on one or in a group. It sort of helps being around people that understand what you're going through, instead of getting the pity eyes from those that don't quite understand. It doesn't hurt to try and see if it works for you?
Great advice! It help to be around someone who been through it!
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I have done grief support groups. They tend to focus more on coping skills but having others who are grieving helps feeling understood and empathized with.
I'm still looking for better coping skills. Any coping and will be great for me!
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i prefer one on one counseling. you might also consider hotlines or warmlines as you never know when the grief will hit. i hope you will be okay. take care.
I never thought about that! I didn't know about hotline for grief! Thank you for letting me know!
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Hi Guys ,

As many of you know I lost my parents and can not grieve there loss , I have Complicated Grief Syndrome .

I just took the "grief" test and scored a 52 , high for anyone suffering a loss.

I can only speak for me , one on one therapy has saved my life so far ,I did go to one group and all they did was talk about how bad they feel , I thought no kidding , so how to I get better ?

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If I were not in therapy , I probably would have taken that long ride , I still want to sometimes , but I remain.

Days are so lonely , and I am always thinking of things I should have said , things that might have saved my life when they were alive , but all that is gone now.

Having Complicated Grief Syndrome is hard enough , but when you toss in the dysphoria of me being trans , the anxiety and depression , I so often wonder why I am here , why me.

I am nothing special , I just try to help , sometimes I can`t do that .

Soon I wil not be able to do anything , and then there really is only one logical choice.

Just needed to write somewhere , I now , what a downer , yeh , that`s me.

Catch you guy`s later thanks for listening to me type : LOL

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My aunt and my mother passed within 2 mos of each other. They both had Alzheimer’s to dif degrees. When trying to go to a nami mtg I stumbled across an outstanding grief class at Peace Lutheran church here in Peoria the west valley of Phoenix. This was a highly structured class with binders, reading assignments. The chaplain gave a lesson each time and it wasn’t religious. He recommended I take the class in feb. the lesson that night was about letting go if you feel guilt and it wasn’t yr fault. I was hardly able to communicate w my mom because of her ra and she was far away. Very, very exceptional class. Do consider it if you r in Phoenix. It may be possible to get the name of the materials if a group leader would contact the chaplain.

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My aunt and my mother passed within 2 mos of each other. They both had Alzheimer’s to dif degrees. When trying to go to a nami mtg I stumbled across an outstanding grief class at Peace Lutheran church here in Peoria the west valley of Phoenix. This was a highly structured class with binders, reading assignments. The chaplain gave a lesson each time and it wasn’t religious. He recommended I take the class in feb. the lesson that night was about letting go if you feel guilt and it wasn’t yr fault. I was hardly able to communicate w my mom because of her ra and she was far away. Very, very exceptional class. Do consider it if you r in Phoenix. It may be possible to get the name of the materials if a group leader would contact the chaplain.
That is great advice!
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It’s tough dealing with grief, most definitely, my cousin passed in 2016 due to suicide, then my mom became ill a few years later, and she had surgery, got a little better, then a few months later my dad finds out he has terminal illness and passes away 1.5 years later, and less than 2 months after that his younger brother passes away.
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It’s tough dealing with grief, most definitely, my cousin passed in 2016 due to suicide, then my mom became ill a few years later, and she had surgery, got a little better, then a few months later my dad finds out he has terminal illness and passes away 1.5 years later, and less than 2 months after that his younger brother passes away.
Oh my so much loss - that must be rough for you. How are you coping with all this?

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