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Default Sep 30, 2018 at 05:10 PM
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I've had my cat for 17-18 years.

She was fine until 2 months ago when she suddenly became emaciated, and a week ago, she developed an upper respiratory infection. She weighs 3 pounds and is skelatal. She ignores the food I put in front of her.

I don't want to euthanize her, but what choice do I have? I don't have any money to treat her symptoms of dehydration with, or pay to tube feed her, or pay to give her fluids to rehydrate her. All the treatments she could get to help her, I am broke and can't pay for. I have to wait a week to pay for her to be euthanized too.

I feel guilty as hell. I feel like ending her life, is like killing her. But what can I do? She is my best friend -- this cat. I feel so horrible.
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Default Oct 01, 2018 at 12:15 AM
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No one responded but that's ok.

My cat died tonight while I held her in my arms. She meant the world to me -- this cat. She was my best friend.
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Default Oct 01, 2018 at 12:36 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Default Oct 01, 2018 at 07:41 AM
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Yes, me too. 17-18 yrs is a long, good life for a cat, though. I'm sorry she's gone :-(
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Yes, me too. 17-18 yrs is a long, good life for a cat, though. I'm sorry she's gone :-(
Thank you.

At least I was with her when she passed away, so that she wasn't alone. Pet love is so real and so DEEP because it's unconditional -- unlike humans who put conditions on their feelings with each other.
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Thank you.

At least I was with her when she passed away, so that she wasn't alone. Pet love is so real and so DEEP because it's unconditional -- unlike humans who put conditions on their feelings with each other.

Yes, I agree it's unconditional unlike humans. Yes, she wasn't alone.

You're welcome StreetcarBlanche. Maybe there's a little kitten out there waiting for you, as well. All my best to you. It'll be okay.
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Default Oct 01, 2018 at 06:00 PM
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I am so, so sorry for your terribly painful loss. I have lost many precious pets over the decades. It never gets easier. It never stops hurting. My heart goes out to you.
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Yes, I agree it's unconditional unlike humans. Yes, she wasn't alone.

You're welcome StreetcarBlanche. Maybe there's a little kitten out there waiting for you, as well. All my best to you. It'll be okay.
Thanks mote. I'm worried I won't be able to handle the transition of going on with my life without my cat. I think if i ever did adopt another cat, I'd want to find a pair of bonded cats and adopt two together. But that is a ways off for sure.

I found a pet loss support group so hopefully that will help me deal with my grief.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
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Default Oct 04, 2018 at 07:57 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. You obviously took great care of her, for her to reach the age of 18.

It's good that you're remaining open to the idea of getting another one or two.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
Thanks Travelinglady.

I just found out yesterday that y cat died from diabetic ketoacidosis -- untreated feline diabetes. I didn't know she even had diabetes because her regular checkup bloodwork didn't show that her blood sugar levels were off.

So I feel even worse now, knowing that had I caught her diabetes early enough I could have sought insulin shots and tablets to treat her condition with, along with a total diet change.

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It's good that you're remaining open to the idea of getting another one or two.
Thanks jayne. I did take great care of her, until she developed diabetes but unfortunately I didn't know her symptoms were from the diabetes until it killed her. Now that I know, I worry about how I would prevent diabetes from happening to any cats that I would adopt in the future.

I feel jut terrible knowing I could have saved her had I figured out her symptoms were from diabetes. I thought that her symptoms leading up to her sudden death were just due to her age; frequent urination, weight loss, etc. b/c older cats lose weight. I had no idea her body was not metabolizing the glucose in her canned cat food anymore that led to her getting feline diabetes.
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Default Oct 05, 2018 at 11:21 AM
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I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved cat, I lost my dog 3 years ago and I still hurt, I try to think of the happy times we had together and it helps ease the pain a bit.
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I'm so sorry, Blanche, I know how hard it is
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So sorry for the loss of your precious fur baby. Hugs to you. Been through it a few times. It is hard. Be good to yourself. So very sad to lose our fur babies.
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I am so sorry for your loss and I know how you feel. Last Saturday we had to put down my "therapy" cat. People don't realize how attached we can all become to our animals. Just know that your kitty is going to be in kitty heaven hanging out with mine. They're gonna be fat and healthy and never get full on their food. They're gonna play and be waiting for you. Unless there isn't a flow of time there, and you're already there with them.

I know it's hard but you have everyone on here. You will get through this and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here and so are many others.

(If I offended you about the kitty heaven, I'm very sorry. But know they're better not being in pain)

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I've had my cat for 17-18 years.

She was fine until 2 months ago when she suddenly became emaciated, and a week ago, she developed an upper respiratory infection. She weighs 3 pounds and is skelatal. She ignores the food I put in front of her.

I don't want to euthanize her, but what choice do I have? I don't have any money to treat her symptoms of dehydration with, or pay to tube feed her, or pay to give her fluids to rehydrate her. All the treatments she could get to help her, I am broke and can't pay for. I have to wait a week to pay for her to be euthanized too.

I feel guilty as hell. I feel like ending her life, is like killing her. But what can I do? She is my best friend -- this cat. I feel so horrible.
I'm sorry! I had to put my twenty one year old cat down last month because she couldn't was or gain weight. She had worms and I deworm her several times using different types of deworm. I felt really bad.
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No one responded but that's ok.

My cat died tonight while I held her in my arms. She meant the world to me -- this cat. She was my best friend.
I like to give you a big group hug. I understand my car was m grief cat. I'm sorry that you are struggling and hurting right now. My nephew burst into tears when he found out that my cat pass away.She been there his whole life.
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Yes, me too. 17-18 yrs is a long, good life for a cat, though. I'm sorry she's gone :-(
Mine is twenty one year old before I had to put her down.
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Thank you.

At least I was with her when she passed away, so that she wasn't alone. Pet love is so real and so DEEP because it's unconditional -- unlike humans who put conditions on their feelings with each other.
They wouldn't let my sister stay with my ca cat only one person could go into the vet office.
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