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Unhappy Dec 26, 2018 at 06:42 PM
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(please leave this thread here cause it's not yet a greif thing but when the inevitable happens it will be a greif subject but until then please leave this here)

My grandma was took into hospital, she's back out at the care home now but she's on pallative care now so we know this is the beginning of the end for her

Advice is carry on as normal for now cause me and family up here cannot drop everything and rush down there, we'd only be able to do that if the end of her life was known to be approaching

She could have months left, she could have weeks left, we don't know, all the news we got so far is about the pallative care thing
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Honey, I am so sorry to hear this!!

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Very sorry to hear that, Whisper....
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I’m so very sorry
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I'm sorry to hear this whisepr

the timing must be awful too, especially to get such sad news around Christmastime

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I'm sorry, sweetie.
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She could have months left, she could have weeks left, we don't know, all the news we got so far is about the pallative care thing
I am so sorry that this is happening. The question how long is often one with no answers. Sometimes we get a chance to say goodbye, sometimes not regardless of how far away another person is.

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I'm so sorry you're struggling, whispershadow It's always terrible to hear a relative is suffering. You and your family are in my thoughts. Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Default Dec 27, 2018 at 05:22 PM
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I got emergency time off work today so got to see her

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So sorry about your Grandma.

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Default Dec 28, 2018 at 06:07 AM
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i'm sorry.

are you close to where she is?

can you at least see her often- or if not close talk to her on the phone.

I have had people go before I can say what I wanted to to them.

don't be one of those people... spend as much time with her as you can
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i'm sorry.

are you close to where she is?

can you at least see her often- or if not close talk to her on the phone.

I have had people go before I can say what I wanted to to them.

don't be one of those people... spend as much time with her as you can
I'm 200ish miles away from her so can only go down there when I can get time off work, when she was able to talk on the phone I'd phone her up and she'd phone me, since moving to the care home though she's found it harder to communicate so talking on the phone isn't a option any more, her brain jumps around too much so she can't really hold a phone conversation any more
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Default Dec 29, 2018 at 06:24 PM
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It is so sad when they get to that point in life. Visit when you can.. that is all you can do. She is getting the best care where she is & being kept comfortable.

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My heart goes out to you Whisper

You sound like in a similar place as me with my own grandmother with distance, phone communication ceased being an option, and pallative care-which over here it's called assisted living.

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Default Dec 31, 2018 at 08:47 AM
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My grandma's been visited by my brother today as well, she's back in the care home but in bed and on oxygen but she's able to recognise people now, they're basically keeping her comfortable for the rest of her life cause they can't do anything more for her now.
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Default Dec 31, 2018 at 09:38 PM
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I understand. I lost my mother in February at age 90 and the docs said they couldn't do anything for her in the end. I stayed with her in the hospital as much as I can before she passed.
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