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It’s been 1 year since my dad passed away from heart failure or heart attack. He had been going through treatment for stage 4 cancer when he passed away. Read that it can be good for family members to meet and discuss favorite memories of person who passed away and expect some crying and laughing too.
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Thank you for sharing your truth Zapatoes. I am sorry you lost your father Universal speed to him.
I really like your idea of sharing favorite memories of your father with family members. That sounds cathartic. Grief can indeed unite people. Not always. But I have seen it occur in some families. May it happen for you! Take good care of yourself. |
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There's no discussing of memories with either him or my brother about mom. My brother isn't speaking to me. I've only shared some with members of a grief group. My dad got mad when I mentioned my mom, lashing out at me. Quote:
And there were a couple of people in the grief group I went to last year who had similar dynamics. I keep reminding myself of that. I was in touch with one of them but she quit responding to me. Yes, do take care of yourself. It might help to keep in mind there's no "right" way to feel or grieve, that there's no time table, and it's not a linear process. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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My own dad died 2 years ago and every chance I get I try to get family to remember his humor by repeating some of his sayings. My mom really needs to laugh. she was bereft when he died. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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Thank you and that’s a great idea to remember your dad’s humor by repeating some of his sayings. |
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Yes I have had to work hard to get by the bitterness but now that he is gone what is the sense of that. Now I am seeing and appreciating the highlights. It is sad that as humans we can be blinded by focusing on the negative until someone is gone. Only then remembering is bittersweet.
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Hello, sorry to hear about your loss. My father passed away last year from heart failure too. He was had cancer. Our stories are very similar. I know you are going through a tough time and I hope you are doing okay.
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