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I am in a lot of pain. Can't work. Can't study. I have a summer course and it's at risk.
I had a fiancé. He had a diagnosis of narcissism. He was seeing a pychologist. We were having unprotected sex and planning a mariage. It was tough. The psychologist said we should be doing projects. He wouldn't agree on one. This was 2014. We had separate résidences and he put my stuff from his home in a bag and put in in my living room. I could no longer see his adult kids. I broke up with him. He pulled me back March 2018. Still seeing the psychologist. He had tears in his eyes because I was menopausal and couldn't have kids. He wanted mariage and said we could adopt. He was different. i saw empathy. But he wouldn't let me into his home. August 2018, I said, '' if I Don't go to your house, you Don't come to mine''. So that was the end of sex. But he kept seeing his psy and talking marriage. July 1, I went to his house and he came out with his wife. I talked to her. She is from Mexico. He went on holiday to Mexico Sept 2014. (While we were seeing a psy for us) and moved her into his home in Oct. 2014. They were married in Sept 2015. What is Killing the most: 1) he was having unprotected sex with me in order to have a child and marry me… but he was married. He was trying to have a pregnant mistress.. This hurts so much. 2) He pulled me back March 2018 with the promise of mariage and adoption, but he was already married so he couldn't do either. I feel a betrayal so huge that I can't get past it. How do you do that to someone. It's been a month. I feel anger now. I didn't feel anger before, just pain. Now I feel anger and pain. So much of both. And I am not functionning. Help |
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So we were having sex (making love) before he met her, while she was living in his house, during their engagement, one Week after their mariage (with a session with the psy) and after their honeymoon. I asked if he had told his psychologist that he was married when he was consulting to have a mariage with me. He said, ' it's not his business to know'. He planned it all. And that hurts. And makes me really mad.
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I feel such pain and such loss… he stood before a celebrant and made vows for life to someone else. It was supposed to be me. She showed me the pictures. His kids organized the wedding. It was supposed to be mine.
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Oh, what an awful man for you to run into. What a terrible betrayal. You may not see it now but you can be thankful one day that you are not married to him and didn't get pregnant.
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roses4me I am sorry that you are in so much pain. It must be agonizing to lose the trust you have with a person.
Have you considered talking to a therapist? Maybe someone else can guide you through this difficult situation. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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That is a great idea! I wish that I had thought about that myself!
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