advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
jrae
Grand Member
 
jrae's Avatar
jrae doesn't understand this messed up world.....
 
Member Since: Jun 2008
Location: WYLTK
Posts: 763
15 yr Member
410 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Attention Aug 23, 2019 at 11:31 PM
  #1
last week my Aunt passed away. her funeral was on Monday, and I was a pall-bearer. she was SO much more than just an aunt to me! she had become so much to me: a supporter, a cheerleader, a confidant, a safe 'hide-out', an ear, a shoulder, an encourager/empower-er, and most days the only reason I had to even check my email or texts!

i keep checking my cell to see if there's a text from her! and i keep thinking 'i should text her'!! i open my email and expect to see something from her! it's so much worse than a punch in the gut! i've lost "my person" - she had become like a best-friend to me over the past like ten years. [only got two friends, outside of relatives]

it's also the third major loss for me in the last 17 months (all in less than a year & a half)

Last edited by jrae; Aug 23, 2019 at 11:58 PM..
jrae is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
88Butterfly88, HowDoYouFeelMeow?, nonightowl, Open Eyes, possum220, Skeezyks, stefano, TerryL, Travelinglady, TunedOut, unaluna, zapatoes

advertisement
zapatoes
Grand Magnate
 
zapatoes's Avatar
zapatoes Looking for my way
 
Member Since: Sep 2018
Location: Islandia
Posts: 4,263 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
10.9k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 24, 2019 at 01:17 AM
  #2
Sorry for your loss jrae and that is very tough to go through a third major loss in the last 17 months. Take good care of yourself and consider grief support or grief counseling. For me it helped to subscribe to daily emails regarding grief support since lost my dad in 2018 and less than 2 months later my uncle.
zapatoes is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae, nonightowl, TerryL
 
Thanks for this!
jrae
Skeezyks
Disreputable Old Troll
 
Skeezyks's Avatar
Skeezyks has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2015
Location: The Star of the North
Posts: 32,762 (SuperPoster!)
8 yr Member
17.4k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Heart Aug 24, 2019 at 04:10 PM
  #3
My condolences on your loss. May I share with you a link to one of my favorite articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of grief & loss?:

What My Dog Taught Me about Grief and Loss

May it be of benefit.

__________________
"I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last)
Skeezyks is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae, TerryL
 
Thanks for this!
jrae, TerryL
Travelinglady
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Travelinglady's Avatar
Travelinglady is feeling tired.
 
Member Since: Sep 2010
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 47,689 (SuperPoster!)
10 yr Member
22.8k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 25, 2019 at 12:08 AM
  #4
I'm sorry to hear about your losses, jrae.
Travelinglady is online now   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae
 
Thanks for this!
jrae
88Butterfly88
Moderator
Community Support Team
 
88Butterfly88's Avatar
88Butterfly88 is fluttering by
 
Member Since: Dec 2015
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 54,177 (SuperPoster!)
8 yr Member
10.5k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 25, 2019 at 11:28 AM
  #5
devastating loss
88Butterfly88 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae
 
Thanks for this!
jrae
jrae
Grand Member
 
jrae's Avatar
jrae doesn't understand this messed up world.....
 
Member Since: Jun 2008
Location: WYLTK
Posts: 763
15 yr Member
410 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Attention Aug 27, 2019 at 11:54 PM
  #6
Quote:
Originally Posted by zapatoes View Post
... Take good care of yourself ...


i honestly have no idea what that means
jrae is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
jrae
Grand Member
 
jrae's Avatar
jrae doesn't understand this messed up world.....
 
Member Since: Jun 2008
Location: WYLTK
Posts: 763
15 yr Member
410 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Attention Sep 06, 2019 at 12:31 AM
  #7
feeling pretty heart-broken today. really miss that compassionate voice and her random, kind, understanding, encouraging messages.....
jrae is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Open Eyes, stefano, TerryL, zapatoes
Open Eyes
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Open Eyes's Avatar
Open Eyes Not a Unicorn, just another horse
 
Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,086 (SuperPoster!)
10 yr Member
21.3k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 07, 2019 at 11:37 PM
  #8
Both my parents passed away this year, I have been grief stricken. My mom was my best friend and her being gone now has really left a big void in my life. It's going to take you time to learn how to live your life without this kind presence being in your life. Be patient with this, it's ok to grieve and miss this special person you had in your life.
Open Eyes is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae, TerryL, zapatoes
 
Thanks for this!
jrae, zapatoes
TerryL
Poohbah
 
TerryL's Avatar
TerryL has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jul 2011
Location: usa
Posts: 1,480
10 yr Member
1,308 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 08, 2019 at 12:11 AM
  #9
Quote:
Originally Posted by jrae View Post
feeling pretty heart-broken today. really miss that compassionate voice and her random, kind, understanding, encouraging messages.....
i am sorry you are feeling so sad.
TerryL is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
jrae, zapatoes
 
Thanks for this!
jrae
stefano
Veteran Member
 
stefano's Avatar
stefano has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2006
Location: Roma, Italy
Posts: 519
15 yr Member
63 hugs
given
Default Nov 03, 2019 at 08:20 PM
  #10
Quote:
Originally Posted by jrae View Post
feeling pretty heart-broken today. really miss that compassionate voice and her random, kind, understanding, encouraging messages.....

I know, it's terrible. I'm living a similar experience.
It takes time, we must have patience.
stefano is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
zapatoes
 
Thanks for this!
jrae
jrae
Grand Member
 
jrae's Avatar
jrae doesn't understand this messed up world.....
 
Member Since: Jun 2008
Location: WYLTK
Posts: 763
15 yr Member
410 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Attention Nov 06, 2019 at 04:46 AM
  #11
had a super tough day today, way long story. freaked out in a ptsd-related event and the only person I could've called to talk to was my aunt! all I would've said was 'it doesn't matter what you say, just talk to me'! (as in help me take my mind of this so I can calm down)
and then I cried.....
jrae is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
stefano, zapatoes
stefano
Veteran Member
 
stefano's Avatar
stefano has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2006
Location: Roma, Italy
Posts: 519
15 yr Member
63 hugs
given
Default Nov 07, 2019 at 12:16 PM
  #12
We can only go ahead, resisting one day after the other. <3
stefano is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
zapatoes
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 05:16 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.