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May 29, 2008 at 09:59 AM
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Does anyone have any recommendations on how to cope ? Its been over a month now and i still am having problems. I will post more details later, dont have the time now. Thanks
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May 29, 2008 at 10:22 AM
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suicide is one of the hardest I think to deal with. it is such a pointless way out. the main thing in any death though is acceptance. I am so very sorry you are going thru this. my grandfather committed suicide when I was 12. even at 51 I still question whether he really pulled that trigger or not. I just don't think in my heart that he would do that to me. but my mind says he probably did it. so even years later it is still difficult at times. I will try to find some links for you today.
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May 29, 2008 at 10:35 AM
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I posted a link in the sticky threads for you.
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May 29, 2008 at 02:58 PM
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im new to this what is a sticky thread
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May 29, 2008 at 06:30 PM
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Its one of the top links when you come on to the Grief forum page.
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May 29, 2008 at 06:35 PM
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Click on the word after the colon, and it will take you to the link: here.
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May 30, 2008 at 10:13 PM
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I am so very sorry for you and your loved ones.
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Jun 02, 2008 at 06:27 PM
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hey hun hope things get better for u i havent had a sucide in my famliy but i lostd my freind yesterday morning due to sucide so i am here to talk
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Jun 05, 2008 at 05:33 PM
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I have never had a family suicide, and hope i never had to. It would absolutly crush me. You said its only been a month? Its okay, I would not expect anyone to bounce back in only a month.
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Jun 22, 2008 at 12:48 AM
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I am so sorry. I know it just doesn't make any sense & I know you have unanswered questions. My father commited suicide in Oct 2007 and no one saw it coming. My mother was in the house and he just walked out back and did it. There was no warning signs. I was completely blown away to see my father like that. I won't let myself think of that day, I really even don't think of him, I won't let myself. I lost my brother in 1992 in a vehicle accident, it took me a long time to get over that, but somehow with what my father has done, it is like I am avoiding it, I hope it don't catch up with me or maybe it is because I am trying to help my mother deal with it and maybe that is why I have to be okay. Sometimes I wonder if maybe he never intended to go that far.
You will be okay, you still have a long way to go, I probably do also, you just have to stay busy, keep you mind busy so that you don't think, that is what I do. |
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Jun 22, 2008 at 02:32 AM
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(((nevagiveup)))) A month is not a long time, hon. You'll need much more time, so much that you shouldn't be thinking about how long it's been. Such a tragedy!
 Day by day is how you do this. In those days, make sure that you continue to make your own life feel like it's worth living. Don't dwell on what happened. When those thoughts do overwhelm you, then sit down and give them attention and then...stop. They'll come back again, but you get to control that eventually ok? You probably have a lot of various emotions inside... and it's important to not let them build up into reactions that you won't like or want to have to apologize for.... talk to someone IRL who can let you work through this. You need support. Don't be hesitant to contact an organization for support either. I think there is a list of them somewhere here. Everyone mourns eventually. I'm sorry this person felt they could not deal with whatever feelings they had about life. Hopelessness is a strong feeling. 
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Jun 22, 2008 at 03:20 PM
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For anyone who lost a loved one to suicide, you may find help by contacting the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. You might be near one of their support groups. Meeting people in real life who have been through a similar experience can be very helpful. If that isn't possible, just talking to someone on the phone might be beneficial.
www.afso.org Click on "Surviving Suicide Loss" on the left, then "Support Groups" Slippers |
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Jun 22, 2008 at 03:28 PM
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It's important to talk about what you are feeling nevagiveup. You won't heal if you don't talk about it...
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum29.html We often talk about it there. Warm hugs. |
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