dealing with suicide

bebop · May 29, 2008 at 10:34 AM

I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide

http://mirror.augusta.com/stories/09...i_142683.shtml

please post responses in a new thread. thanks

Slippers · Jun 01, 2008 at 10:54 AM

www.afsp.org is a great resource

Jul 01, 2009 at 11:16 PM

Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him.

cocoa58 · Sep 24, 2010 at 05:09 PM

I'm so sorry about your sister in law! Hugs!

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Originally Posted by Orange_Blossom

Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him.

agrimm · Feb 08, 2014 at 08:07 PM

Hello everyone. First let me say how sorry I am to hear all of your stories of your grieving the loss of your loved ones to suicide. I know how hard it is to be going through such a traumatic ordeal. My name is Arielle and I am 25 years old. I have two beautiful daughters who give me the strength to keep moving forward everyday. On December16,2013 I became a widow after my husband of 6 years committed suicide. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. I swear some days I don't even know how I have the strength to get out of bed, but then it hits me that my girls need me to be the strong mommy that they've always had. Between the grief and the guilt, it's really starting to takes it toll on me. I have never been more ready to give up then I am right now but that little bit of strength left in me, and those two sets of big brown eyes of my daughters won't let me do it. Before finding this site I really didn't know where to turn, because I am still on a waiting list for counseling. I have family and friends but it's like I don't want to be a nuisance and keep crying about the same thing to the same people. I've always been a shy and private person, so that may be another reason I find it hard talking to the people I know. Anyways I just want to say thank you to everyone who created this site and thank you to everyone who has joined this site. It feels good knowing that there are people who understands.

UnclesGirl · 09:41 AM

Hi everyone! I am sorry for everyone's losses. My heart knows the struggle so we'll.
I lost my fiancee 5 years ago. I can't explain the pain I have felt since that day. It has forever changed me. I always speak of my life in two chapters: before the suicide and after the suicide.
I can't think about it for to long or the pain overwhelms me. I have not dealt with this grief much.
I know that finding others that can understand my grief has been so helpful in my journey. So thank you everyone who shared.

Skeezyks · Jan 17, 2020 at 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by UnclesGirl

Hi everyone! I am sorry for everyone's losses. My heart knows the struggle so we'll.
I lost my fiancee 5 years ago. I can't explain the pain I have felt since that day. It has forever changed me. I always speak of my life in two chapters: before the suicide and after the suicide.
I can't think about it for to long or the pain overwhelms me. I have not dealt with this grief much.
I know that finding others that can understand my grief has been so helpful in my journey. So thank you everyone who shared.

@UnclesGirl Here are links to 2 articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of surviving a loved one's suicide:

Guideposts for Surviving a Loved One's Suicide

This Side of Suicide: Using the Written Word to Cope with Loss

And then I thought I would also share with you my personal favorite, among the articles in PC's archives, on the subject of grief & loss:

What My Dog Taught Me about Grief and Loss

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018 at 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Orange_Blossom

Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him.

I'm so sorry that you are struggling right now!

Buffy01 · Dec 19, 2021 at 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Orange_Blossom

Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him. :rain3:

I understand because I loss my brother suicide.

stairwaytothestars · Aug 18, 2009 at 06:27 PM

Thank you!!!!!

stairwaytothestars · Aug 18, 2009 at 06:28 PM

Thank you very much those sites really helped my friend

daydreamer76 · May 19, 2010 at 01:38 AM

Thank you for those links. I am a suicide survivor and I'm stuck in grief. I really need to get help.

cocoa58 · Sep 24, 2010 at 05:08 PM

I'm so very sorry - hugs to you!

I had my suicide loss in 2005, and had a horrible time finding resources. Glad you're here.

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Originally Posted by daydreamer76

Thank you for those links. I am a suicide survivor and I'm stuck in grief. I really need to get help.

SunTracker · Oct 11, 2013 at 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by daydreamer76

Thank you for those links. I am a suicide survivor and I'm stuck in grief. I really need to get help.

I'm a survivor of suicide also looking for help and someone to chat with. My spouse commited suicide two years ago and I'm trying to move forward. I would like to hear how you are coping and need someone to talk to also.

SunTracker

msredlin · May 20, 2010 at 10:50 AM

Good morning everyone. I am sorry to read about your sister in law. My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my dad in an trucking accident Sept. of 08 and then my gramma this last December. They were a huge part of my connection to my not only my dad of course, but my relatives in Kansas. (I am a child of divorce,but gramma and dad always made sure I wasn't left out or forgotten) I feel very fortunate to have had them in my life. Now without them, I am lost! The grief has been so very overwhelming at times. I just had a birthday and I knew it would of been more complete if I just could of heard their voices on the other end of the line. (LOL...sounds like a great song)

cocoa58 · Sep 24, 2010 at 05:07 PM

Hi everyone,
I'm very sorry for everybody who posted here, who has had a loss from suicide.

I too have had a suicide loss - my older brother in 2005. I still have a lot of grief and issues from this. I was really close to him and considered him very supportive and caring of me and kind of a "protector" for me too.

Now, he left and I'm still here. I feel a lot of things - abandoned, grief stricken, angry, etc.

So thanks for the links. I have checked out some too. Hugs to everybody here!

There are some good books out there too: one I really like is "An Empty Chair" by Sara Swan Miller - its on sibling suicide.

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Originally Posted by msredlin

Good morning everyone. I am sorry to read about your sister in law. My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my dad in an trucking accident Sept. of 08 and then my gramma this last December. They were a huge part of my connection to my not only my dad of course, but my relatives in Kansas. (I am a child of divorce,but gramma and dad always made sure I wasn't left out or forgotten) I feel very fortunate to have had them in my life. Now without them, I am lost! The grief has been so very overwhelming at times. I just had a birthday and I knew it would of been more complete if I just could of heard their voices on the other end of the line. (LOL...sounds like a great song)

reintegrate54 · Oct 10, 2010 at 01:56 AM

Thank you for the links. Was going through pictures tonight-am still very raw. Will check them out. My heart goes out to everyone here.
love and hugs
reintegrate54

Charlie_J · Mar 12, 2011 at 03:27 AM

Ok, so I am a survivor of suicide. In 2001, my brother suffered from depression, and had previously been hospitalised for suicide attempts. One and half months prior to his death, he'd been in ICU for a drugs overdose and had escaped without brain damage.

He took another drugs overdose, and this time he was successful. There was some evidence my Dad had tried to recsusitate him (he was a doctor). Later, at his inquest, the pathologist said it was the biggest overdose he had ever seen in his career.

My Dad didn't call anyone. Unbeknown to me he'd been fighting a case of constructive dismissal at his job and was also suffering from depression. He took an overdose of painkillers.

Some days later, when my Mother was worried because she couldn't get an answer on the phone, I opened the door to their house and found them.

If someone you love commits suicide, here are some bits of advice you might find useful.

* It's not your fault.
* That black, physical pain you feel will ease eventually.
* You may be very angry with them at times. This is normal. Don't be ashamed of it.
* Acquaintances, and sometimes even close friends will avoid you. This is because they don't know what to say, and are afraid.
* It takes time, but one day you'll wake up and it won't be your first thought. Promise.
* Just in case you missed it. It's not your fault.
* You will learn to live with it.
* If you're depressed yourself, get help.
* Be kind to yourself.

Some useful links:

http://www.uk-sobs.org.uk/
http://www.forsuicidesurvivors.com/index.html

I may add other useful bits and pieces to this thread as I think of them.

Keep well, ppl

Hope.Floater · Feb 02, 2013 at 09:38 PM

My brother passed in June of 2011 less then 1 month before his 22 birthday. Like Charlie-J posted the black hole does ease up over time and I have to say Charlie-J the way you worded your list was perfect. People have mentioned these things to me but worded them differently and it made me fly over the deep end.
avlady I know I am only a little over a year out on this although I don't think we will ever "get over" losing our siblings. I think it's awesome that you are open to working through it. Please share what you learn from these sites and from your experience. Like I said I'm new at all of this and some days it's hard as I'm sure everyone here can relate to.
Thanks for reading guys.

Buffy01 · Apr 15, 2022 at 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Charlie_J

Ok, so I am a survivor of suicide. In 2001, my brother suffered from depression, and had previously been hospitalised for suicide attempts. One and half months prior to his death, he'd been in ICU for a drugs overdose and had escaped without brain damage.

He took another drugs overdose, and this time he was successful. There was some evidence my Dad had tried to recsusitate him (he was a doctor). Later, at his inquest, the pathologist said it was the biggest overdose he had ever seen in his career.

My Dad didn't call anyone. Unbeknown to me he'd been fighting a case of constructive dismissal at his job and was also suffering from depression. He took an overdose of painkillers.

Some days later, when my Mother was worried because she couldn't get an answer on the phone, I opened the door to their house and found them.

If someone you love commits suicide, here are some bits of advice you might find useful.

* It's not your fault.
* That black, physical pain you feel will ease eventually.
* You may be very angry with them at times. This is normal. Don't be ashamed of it.
* Acquaintances, and sometimes even close friends will avoid you. This is because they don't know what to say, and are afraid.
* It takes time, but one day you'll wake up and it won't be your first thought. Promise.
* Just in case you missed it. It's not your fault.
* You will learn to live with it.
* If you're depressed yourself, get help.
* Be kind to yourself.

Some useful links:

http://www.uk-sobs.org.uk/
Suicide Loss Survivors | Alliance of Hope

I may add other useful bits and pieces to this thread as I think of them.

Keep well, ppl :)

:grouphug:

Thank you, This means a lot to me.

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bebop Legendary Member Since Oct 2004 Location: Ga Posts: 13,936 19 34 hugs given	May 29, 2008 at 10:34 AM #1 I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide http://mirror.augusta.com/stories/09...i_142683.shtml please post responses in a new thread. thanks __________________ He who angers you controls you!
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reintegrate54 Junior Member Member Since Sep 2010 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 8 13	Oct 10, 2010 at 01:56 AM #17 Thank you for the links. Was going through pictures tonight-am still very raw. Will check them out. My heart goes out to everyone here. love and hugs reintegrate54
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