advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Anonymous55888
Guest
Anonymous55888 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Thumbs down Jan 24, 2019 at 01:34 AM
  #1
I constantly do this. Negative self-talk. "You are old". "You are late". "You are not achieved". "You are a joke". "You are a failure". "You are a shame". And when I try to do something to build my self-esteem again, the negative self-talk brings me down. I wish I knew how I can overcome this vicious cycle. I know there is no magic solution, but I just cannot bring myself to do anything. I am unemployed now and all I have tried to achieve was for nothing, and I will probably end up homeless in few months. It's all in my mind. My mind is against me. My mind is my worst enemy.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
AspiringAuthor, happysobercrafter, hvert, LucyD, MickeyCheeky

advertisement
MickeyCheeky
Legendary
 
MickeyCheeky's Avatar
MickeyCheeky My echo is the only voice coming back
 
Member Since: Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 11,817 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
38.4k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jan 24, 2019 at 05:17 AM
  #2
I'm so sorry, Background Noise It must be really hard to deal with this. One useful exercise that I know of is to try to substitute those negative thougths with positive ones. Recognize when you're doing negative self-talk and try to think positively and rationally. If you think you're a failure, tell yourself that you aren't and try to remember all the things that you've accomplished - even the very small ones. It's not easy, especially when you're depressed, but it may be worth a shot. I'm so sorry, please don't give up. I wish I had more advice for you. If you want to vent, I'm here to listen. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Sending many hugs to you
MickeyCheeky is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
happysobercrafter
 
Thanks for this!
AspiringAuthor, happysobercrafter
happysobercrafter
Elder
 
happysobercrafter's Avatar
happysobercrafter is AKA Landon Clary Eason
 
Member Since: Jul 2017
Location: MO
Posts: 5,677 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
9,930 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jan 24, 2019 at 11:04 AM
  #3
I am sorry you are going through this as well. Do you see a therapist? They can help you straighten out your thinking.

__________________


"Love you.
Take care of you.

Be true to you.

You are the only you,
you will ever know the best.


Reach for YOUR stars.


You can reach them better
than anyone else ever can."


Landon Clary Eason
Grateful Sobriety Fangirl Since 11-16-2007

Happy Sober Crafter
happysobercrafter is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
phoenix7
Wise Elder
 
phoenix7's Avatar
phoenix7 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 8,135
15 yr Member
1,268 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jan 26, 2019 at 02:59 AM
  #4
when you start the negative self talk shout in your head SHUT UP !!!!! tell yourself
I am worthwhile - I deserve to be happy

fake it till you make it - you wont believe it at first - or even after a while but it helps - it really does

__________________
Its not how many times you fall down that counts
its how many times you get back up!
Negative self-talk
(Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )

When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown,
Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.
by Patrick Overton, author and poet
phoenix7 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
LucyD
Anonymous40258
Guest
Anonymous40258 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Jan 26, 2019 at 09:45 AM
  #5
Stopping negative self talk before starting is better, then there is no need to shout. On the other hand, I do see meaning in self-reflection and other methods of self-talk. Find a balance between faking, feeling, seeing and believing is the difficult part in whatever darkness faced.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Kiwi2222
Member
Kiwi2222 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 33
5 yr Member
Default Jan 26, 2019 at 05:32 PM
  #6
Its part of everyday with everything else for me
Kiwi2222 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous55888, LucyD
Kiwi2222
Member
Kiwi2222 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 33
5 yr Member
Default Jan 28, 2019 at 10:27 PM
  #7
I experience that as well. All the time. I've tried fake it etc etc but I can't get out and have no where to go. You're definitely not alone. Sorry can't offer magic cure I'm still looking
Kiwi2222 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
AspiringAuthor, LucyD
Memories of Silence
Junior Member
 
Memories of Silence's Avatar
Memories of Silence has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posts: 13
5 yr Member
Default Jan 29, 2019 at 07:29 AM
  #8
It sounds like a part of your negativity is coming from you thinking you are too old to improve or try new things, and that you’ve left it too late (I haven’t seen your other posts, so I’m sorry if I’m wrong). You’re never too old to improve your life or try something new, and it’s never too late.

You are as important as the people around you, and deserve to be happy and to enjoy yourself. Maybe you didn’t succeed in one part of your life, but it doesn’t mean you can’t succeed in another. You could surprise yourself.

Are there any hobbies you think you would enjoy, or have always wanted to try? You could find employment through something you are good at or enjoy doing.

Achievement can have many meanings, including simple ones such as overcoming your negativity. Making a list of the things you like about yourself could make you feel better about yourself, even if it’s only temporary.

I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through, and I hope things will get better for you.
Memories of Silence is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Anonymous55888
Guest
Anonymous55888 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Trig Jan 29, 2019 at 12:54 PM
  #9
At this point I don't enjoy doing anything, and I matter to no one, even family. I am sure if I vanish now, no one would notice. Sometimes I think if I die in my apartment, no one would know before 3-4 days only from the smell. No one checks on me. Maybe someone might say it's my fault. Partly yes, but I have tried so hard to connect with people, but people consider me as an annoyance because I have nothing to offer.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
AspiringAuthor, LucyD
AspiringAuthor
Veteran Member
AspiringAuthor has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2017
Location: Mountain View
Posts: 629
5 yr Member
374 hugs
given
Default Jan 30, 2019 at 11:00 PM
  #10
But you matter to people on this thread. If you do not respond after several days, we would be worried about you, thinking about what might have happened, and hoping that soon you would pop up.

__________________
Bipolar I w/Psychotic features

Zyprexa Zydis 5 mg
Gabapentin 1200 mg
Melatonin 10 mg
Levoxyl 75 mcg (because I took Lithium in the past)


past medications: Depakote, Lamictal, Lithium, Seroquel, Trazodone, Risperdal, Cogentin, Remerol, Prozac, Amitriptyline, Ambien, Lorazepam, Klonopin, Saphris, Trileptal, Clozapine and Clozapine+Wellbutrin, Topamax
AspiringAuthor is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
LucyD
Grand Poohbah
 
LucyD's Avatar
LucyD :)
 
Member Since: Apr 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 1,818
8 yr Member
1,667 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jan 31, 2019 at 12:12 AM
  #11
Quote:
Originally Posted by Background Noise View Post
At this point I don't enjoy doing anything, and I matter to no one, even family. I am sure if I vanish now, no one would notice. Sometimes I think if I die in my apartment, no one would know before 3-4 days only from the smell. No one checks on me. Maybe someone might say it's my fault. Partly yes, but I have tried so hard to connect with people, but people consider me as an annoyance because I have nothing to offer.
I see you are angry with you situation. Don't give up. I am in the same way as you. I realized where some of my negative self talk came from and I tell the talk that it is wrong and that I am good, worthwhile, worthy of all good and I keep telling it to myself over and over and over and over. It takes some time to break old habits but new habits overcome them. Positive self talk does work. I also looked at all the food and substances I was taking in and changed all of that, too, so that I have the best chance at surviving to the future with end stage liver disease.

__________________
One way to get the best out of life is to think of it as an adventure.
William Feather


Medications: Risperidone-1 mg.daily, Propranolol-20 mg. daily, Gabapentin-600 mg daily, Melatonin-3 mg. at bedtime, Nicotine Lozenges-2 mg., Vape Liquid-3 mg., One A Day Vitamins,
LucyD is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
AspiringAuthor, continuosly blue
 
Thanks for this!
AspiringAuthor
daz1056
Account Suspended
daz1056 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Mar 2019
Location: United Kingdom
Posts: 18
5 yr Member
Default Mar 17, 2019 at 12:32 PM
  #12
Don't give up, negative self-talk is a had habit to break, alot of what you've said id negative self talk, it unlikely that you really know if people think you're an annoyance, this is probably your negative self talk again.

Have you tried re-framing the questions you have about yourself, one of the questions I ask my self everyday is what do I love about myself and I must come up with an answer.

Another one is who can I send a note of appreciation or gift to and I do it. You'd be amazed at the difference this makes in your relationships. There are things you can do to get out of this and you have a support network here if you need us
daz1056 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 05:53 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.