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Default Jan 09, 2014 at 06:50 AM
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I want my mom to spank me.

Before I go on, I know this is an abnormal situation, and I promise you that everything posted is both true and how I feel. I can also safely say that there is no sexual undertones here, and nor do I have a spanking fetish of any sort. I'm going to pour my heart out to help you understand everything, so excuse the length, but I need an equally detailed response to this. Thanks.

I'm a 26 year old male. I was raised well by my parents, I'm well educated, mature, and an upstanding citizen. I've always had good relations with my parents, but I lose my temper easily with them, and that's the basis of all of this.

My dad works abroad, so I'm very close with my mom. Growing up, between the ages of 6 to 10, I threw huge tempter tantrums. I would curse, slam doors (which I broke once and had to pay for), throw things, and just cause chaos when I didn't get my way.

To deal with this, my mom would chase me around the house. Once she grabbed me, she pinned me down on the floor, or sometimes would sit on me to control me and calm everything down. It was in this position she would sometimes spank me. She was always still very angry, it was always with her hand, and always over my pants. Basically, she would swat me as she emphasized her lecture, i.e. "Don't ever *SMACK* ever *Smack* do that again. During this time, she would further punish me by taking away TV, Video Games, etc. She also washed my mouth out with soap sometimes, and rarely slapped my face. Nothing abusive.

By age 10, the "spanking" (I guess I never really got a formal spanking), stopped. Between the ages of 10 to 14, I was still throwing tantrums, but I was now punished mainly by grounding and loss of privileges for between 2 weeks and 1 month.

As I got into my teen years, I started to ignore any punishments my mom would give me. I would watch TV when she wasn't home, etc. But my behavior was still bad when I got angry. I now included blasting music and even worse of a mouth, and still would throw papers and things around, slamming doors repeatedly, as well. But age 16 or 17, she wouldn't even punish me anymore when I misbehaved.

However, throughout and up to this very day, she still issues spanking threats. During the early teen years, she would say things like "What you need is a good spanking", but never acted on it.

I remember when I was 18 I was in the car with my sister (16) and we started arguing, and I hit her. As we got home, the arguing was still continuing, and my mom said "If you don't stop, I'm going to smack your ***."

My sister even got threatened when she was 19 - She was acting up, and in her room. My mom goes downstairs, and I hear her say to my dad: "What she needs is a good spanking", he agreed but nothing was done.

I've matured greatly as the years have gone by and I've graduated college, but I'm still prone to similar tantrums, especially where I'll use every curse word in the book. I've felt that since age 19, I do deserve to be punished - but you can't really ground a young adult/college student/post-graduate, can you? I know my mom is right that I deserve to be spanked. The best opportunity to bring this up would be when she was angry and was threatening such actions, but I never could bring myself to do it - cos of course, I DON'T really want a spanking, especially not at the time I'm angry.

When I was 23, I was home for the weekend. The night before my mom and I were casually talking about the alcohol I stole and snuck from her while a teen (would steal and drink it between the ages of 16 and 20, when I was 21 she found out and I confessed. All very expensive liquor).

Anyway, remembering that I'm 23, my mom comes in and wakes me up the next morning. I felt guilty about my actions, and knew some form of punishment was in order. I blurted out: "Mom, can you spank me?....I feel guilty about what the alcohol and I need to be punished." She was startled, and taken aback. She looked at me oddly and said "No one should ever hit you, etc", she resumed that lecture as she drove me to the train station later that morning.

As recently as last month (26 years old), I was back home with my mom. She forbids drinking in the home now, even though I'm well over the age. It's her rule, but I dismiss it. She caught me, and we began to argue, and it became a big ordeal again. She blurts out in anger "I should have given you that spanking" - which I believe was a reference to my request a few years earlier. She ended up slapping my face, and that was that.

I'm not proud of all these incidents. Believe me, I'm a very nice person - but the tantrums against my parents need to stop. I do know the difference of right/wrong, but at the time I don't care.

I feel guilty, and ashamed after those big arguments. I also feel that a punishment with spanking would help deter me in the future.

Is there anyway I can convince her to try it? It seems like if I made that request when she was angry, she wouldn't hesitate to do it. I also know that any spanking that would happen would be with her hand over my pants.

I feel closer with my mom than my dad. In fact, when I was getting therapy for depression, I requested female therapists because I connect better with the other gender. I wouldn't be so hesitant to bring this up with my mom if my dad wasn't around - I don't want him to know of my request no matter the outcome.

My mom is thin, but I'm even thinner. Basically, I imagine this would be a one-time thing because being bent over and spanked at 26 would be humiliating. I believe that would curb my tantrums, especially knowing that it could certainty happen again if I act up.

So how can I go about this? Is it possible?
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Default Feb 09, 2014 at 02:51 AM
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Are you certain you would never argue the same again if she did spank you one last time? I guess you need to explore this with your therapist and figure out why you feel you want this. Is it because you feel guilty that her spankingmnever realky worked on controlling your tantrums and you want to give her another shot, in some way apologize to her? Or do you feel you need to be punished that way bc you dont forgive yourself yet for everything and feel guilty bc how much you oove your mother?

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Default Dec 27, 2017 at 04:35 PM
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I want my father to spank me pants down face down on the bed for my naughty behavior how do I ask him to spank me
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