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Poohbah
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I would love to hear your opinions on what makes a good parent. I used to think that it was solely based on what you could provide to your child in terms of education, food, shelter, and the like. But now I realize there is also the emotional support factor.
I think my parents did a solid job with the first part. They are very good at giving me the things you can purchase with money that facilitate successful growth. Especially considering that they immigrated to America with broken English and very little money, they have more than exceeded my expectations as providers. But there is hardly a day where I feel like I can connect with them properly. I don't think they are very good listeners. They say they will listen, but they do most of the talking. Slowly, I have learned to not say anything because my opinion will just be rejected anyway. I am not a parent, but I would love to have kids in the future. Currently 22. Not rushing to find a significant other or anything like that. I just wish to gain some perspective on good supportive parenting since I have little example by which to follow. I am afraid of unintentionally harming my children if I cannot give them what they need emotionally. What stories, ideas, or tips do you guys have on this topic? |
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I think one of the most important things we can do for our children is to be present when they want to talk to us. If they have open communication when they are young, I think they continue to do so making it easier for them to express their joys, pain and fears.
Also, I think having good boundaries and being consistent is important. __________________ Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha
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kindness and being able to show a child exactly what is right and what is wrong. also compassion, consistency, generosity, honesty and validation of feelings.
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*Consistency and boundaries
*Sense of humor *restraint (kids will push buttons) If you can't get away doing it to an adult (screaming/hitting) you certainly can't do it to a child. *Friendly/loving __________________ Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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