Trigger Warning: I don't wanto do this anymore

Mygrandjourney · Nov 12, 2015 at 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by chimera17

I feel this way too. Do you work outside of the home at all? I do, and it actually makes it so much worse, because I feel trapped in the job too because without my added income we wouldn't be able to afford the stuff I want for the kids, and I know I can't just be home with them all the time. I would snap.

I agree: is there a "both and" solution to your situation v. "either or"? Perhaps brainstorming all possible options would be a good starting point?

Nov 14, 2015 at 07:03 PM

Hang in there. My bipolar 1
was triggered as a result of pregnancy. Life turned into a blender since. I just have one child. All I could handle. She's a love and now 15. She asks me how I put up with her. I tell her I still am lol. Your kiddos may inherit your bipolar. Get help with the kids. Take care of you. Those hard times will pass. Stay strong.

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Nov 14, 2015 at 07:07 PM

PS: I divorced after 16 years and it's much better now. I did escape an abusive marriage. Take care and there is no shame.

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Patagonia · Nov 14, 2015 at 09:55 PM

I think about divorce daily. My biggest issue is money.
But when I look at the situation as a whole, where I am more than half way thru my life & next to nothing to show for it I wonder why I'd wanto make such radical changes at this point. Isn't the grass always greener? If I'd get to the other side, to a freer side won't I naturally look back & say god I was so stupid to leave such a great set up. Yet another mistake made. I know myself pretty well & the mistakes I've made. Now I've become gun shy to make any moves. Like my feet r in cinder blocks.
Loneliness is not attractive

chimera17 · Dec 08, 2015 at 03:33 AM

It is tough. Can you ever really tell if the problem is your mental state stressing out your relationship vs your relationship exacerbating your mental state?

For me, the roughest patches in my relationship have been causes by my own mental instabilities in most cases, and my partner's issues in only a few. When we've weathered the storm so to speak, I have been thankful I didn't act while in the depths of depression or whatever emotional issue had come up.

However, there are many people out there who are in relationships that exacerbate mental health issues. It is incredibly hard to gain enough perspective to be 100% sure until you take action. It might help to journal some of your thoughts, and then review them after a period of time to see if your relationship is one of the sources of your stress and frustration or if it is just a victim of the stress and frustration you are feeling. Discussing with a counselor may also help gain clarity.

Hang in there! Things WILL get better, and you WILL be able to choose the right path for you!

leomama · Dec 25, 2015 at 03:15 PM

Wait until they are teens. At least you have a husband. Imagine doing it by yourself. I say count your blessings. I mean at one point you wanted three kids, right? Your job is not done until they've reached adulthood . What kind of help are you getting?

333maizie · Dec 25, 2015 at 11:31 PM

I feel exactly the same way. My ds is giving my dh and I real problems now and consuming our lives. When we are driving, I look at pretty apartment buildings and think how simple and peaceful my life would be if I lived alone. But it would get lonely eventually. I won't leave because of both of my children, but I take as much time as I can get by myself. Otherwise, I would shrivel up and die. If you can get away, do it! Take a vacation by yourself!

Patagonia · Dec 26, 2015 at 02:06 PM

One of my siblings & I are working on rewriting my resume....do they even use those anymore???
I need to get a job. Real job with a real income, even if that takes me away time wise, from my family. I know, where I live, I can't live on minimum wage

leomama · Dec 26, 2015 at 11:38 PM

Is there an employment center in your county?

Patagonia · Dec 27, 2015 at 08:57 AM

I think there is one yes.
My current resume is all Art related & my niche market is extremely small so I have to change my resume & make it more business like. My biggest obstacle is technology. I can use it, but not great at it.
And no I'm not going back to school again. I'm too old & no $$ for it.

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Anonymous37904 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 14, 2015 at 07:07 PM #23 PS: I divorced after 16 years and it's much better now. I did escape an abusive marriage. Take care and there is no shame. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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leomama Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2014 Location: USA Posts: 4,703 10 172 hugs given	Dec 25, 2015 at 03:15 PM #26 Wait until they are teens. At least you have a husband. Imagine doing it by yourself. I say count your blessings. I mean at one point you wanted three kids, right? Your job is not done until they've reached adulthood . What kind of help are you getting?
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leomama Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2014 Location: USA Posts: 4,703 10 172 hugs given	Dec 26, 2015 at 11:38 PM #29 Is there an employment center in your county?
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