[ausmerican]

My five year old son had a play date at my house with a six year old friend (they've been friends for three years). I walked in the bedroom and the six year old was trying to put his penis in my son's bum. I immediately phoned the boy's mom and they left. I spoke with my son at length afterwards and it turns out that this was the other boy's "plan" that he came up with and my son said "sure sounds good." (ugh). Anyway, it also turns out, after speaking with my son, that this boy asked him to touch his penis (my son admitted to doing that) and asked him to touch his bum (my son also admitted to doing that as well). I asked him how all of this made him feel and he said "sick to my tummy" - I said, "in a good or a bad way?" He said, "Bad". Anyway, is this normal behaviour for a six year old? The boy's mom was appropriately horrified and after speaking with her son, he insists it is just an "idea that he came up with." This seems very beyond what a six year old should know. Any advice would be welcome. Thank you.

Of course this isn't normal. I don't believe that the other boy came up with this from his own mind!! Not that someone else told him, but maybe he saw something that he shouldn't have seen, because 6 years old is very young for this. Anyway, I see that your son is not the culprit here. He played along with the other boy. I suggest to keep an eye on them if they will continue to play together.

[googley]

That is not normal childhood exploration. I would worry that the other child was sexually abused himself or he was exposed to sexual content (ie porn etc). My recommendation would be to continue talking to your son about good touch/ bad touch but make sure you don't shame your son for what happened.

[TishaBuv]

The showing/touching each other is normal at that age. My son and his friends played at that together in the closet at the same age (he said it was the girl's idea and I believe him). I told him it was inappropriate and the rule became the door must stay opened.

As for as the penis in the bum... I don't know where the other boy would have gotten the idea or what it really means.

[TishaBuv]

http://nctsn.org/nctsn_assets/pdfs/c...ndbehavior.pdf

You may want to read more from this link.