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Default Sep 16, 2019 at 11:35 PM
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Hello folks, new to this forum.

Quick background - was denied access upon separation, gained access through courts and fought my way into joint custody and equal parenting times with kiddo.

assessment was done and they found mom and child (aged 7 at the time) to be aligned, with child having rigid and negative views of me and extending into my extended family members and overly positive and unrealistic views of mom.

we started reintegration about 1 year after this recommendation. basically the therapy ended after their assessment phase because child indicated they loved me and so therapist thought everything okay.

I am seeing child is really preserved when in the presence of both her mom and I. Meaning, she is not willing to hug, and at doctor appointments, school meetings, etc, basically walks right next to mom, sits facing her with back facing me - me basically being the 3rd wheel or parent in background. When mom is not around or goes to take bathroom brakes, everything changes and child is clingy and able to show attachment and affection.

Is this preserverance something I should raise with the therapist? What's the best way to go about it ?
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Hello koolaidad: Your concern is not one I can address. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

Here are links to 8 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of co-parenting:

How to Co-Parent Successfully after Divorce

10 Essentials of Co-Parenting After a Divorce | The Exhausted Woman

Steps to Successful Co-Parenting

Ten Rules for Effective Co-Parenting | The Exhausted Woman

Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex | Relationships in Balance

https://pro.psychcentral.com/recover...-co-parenting/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/why-you...ers-parenting/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

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