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Old 01-20-2019, 03:48 PM #1
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Default Did you make friends on the ward?

Just wondering if you made any friends on the ward? I made many friends and found they were more honest and authentic,deeper friendships.I also fell in love with other patients at least four times on the ward usually some guy I’d get involved with,and I fell for two of my psych nurses I was there often and for a long time.
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i've never really made friends with anyone I met in a psych ward. There have been people that I liked, and got along with well, and we'd sort of hang out as a group and do things together, but we all deliberately kept it sort of superficial. I've never kept in contact with anyone I've been hospitalized with.


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The one time I was in an adult ward, I fell for a girl that was there.


She was in there because she was suicidal. Her boyfriend was abusive to her and she was struggling with depression from it.



We clicked early on and started talking a lot and holding hands. The only thing that kept her from wanting to be with me was our age difference. At the time, I was 21 and she was 28. She said if I was a few years older she would probably be hitting on me.


I was one of the only guys there who was nice to her in a non creepy way. She was attractive so a lot of guys were hitting on her and making sexual jokes and other weird stuff. I tried my best to comfort her and make her feel better. After I left, we parted with a hug.



We were going to keep in contact outside of the psyche ward. I only heard from her once after we both discharged and she seemed to be doing alright. She fell off the face of the earth soon after though. Sometimes I still worry about her. I hope she found a guy that isn't an abusive prick to love her because she was a sweet girl.
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I have made some really good friends in the psych ward, who I continue to stay in touch with, and it's been over 5 years since I got to know them.
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The first few times I felt like the kids were a lot more nicer and understanding then the kids in my Jr. high. After that, not so much. Although that was pretty much my fault. I used to see some of them around years later and they were still jerks.
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98% percent of hospitals within a 60 mile radius of me are horribly abusive places. The yelp reviews are really bad. There’s one great hospital which is the best mental health hospital in the surrounding states. That’s where I go for therapy and where my doctor is. But good luck trying to get into the actual hospital. You usually have to be put on a waiting list everytime you try to go. You sometimes have to wait for days. And if your involuntary you just get sent to one of the bad ones since they always have plenty of beds.

Are the hospitals in other states better? It seems that way based on people I know. All I know is I am downright terrified of going to a hospital based on the options I have.
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Default Re: Did you make friends on the ward?

I made a friend the first time I was hospitalized and we stayed friends for years until she died.

Otherwise, I have not met folks I could relate to. Too young, not much in common, too disturbed, etc.
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The last time I was in, I didn't make any friends, since I didn't want the hospital to be a part of my life after I left. In the past I have made a few friends there, but none of those friendships lasted long, because they were all related to the 'psych subculture'. I found it hard when someone would call telling me that they were suicidal. For some it was chronic. It was too much for me, so I had to distance myself.

All the people I met there have passed away between the ages of 35 and 44 from natural causes and suicide. Sad.
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Default Re: Did you make friends on the ward?

I'm the veteran of almost 30 inpatient admissions, including one that lasted an entire year. My therapist made a rule after several destructive "friendships"...do not make friends inpatient and then bring them outpatient. It was a wise rule. Bonding over an illness when we're in a closed environment is natural. On an inpatient unit, other patients are our only social contact. However, for me, illness is not the reason to bring someone out of an in-patient unit and into my child's life. As much as we think we might know someone who shares our hospital stay, we don't know them. We only know what they tell us. I brought home people who were stalkers and people who turned out to be dangerously manipulative. However, to me, they seemed like soul-sisters in-patient. You can't truly know someone when everyone is in a controlled environment and everyone is extremely ill. Be very cautious.
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I've had numerous hospital stays but only made a friend once...we were inseparable while i was in the hospital....we really hit off and became close. i kept in contact for a little while after discharge but lost touch when she went to a new group home. other than that i've kept to myself during my stays
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