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From what I remember from my hospitalizations, it wasn't like everyone on the ward was local. If they didn't live in town but were from an hour or more away, it makes sense that they wouldn't have a lot of visitors.
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I haven't read everything, so I apologize if I repeat something already shared.
Stigma. Embarrassment of being seen in the company of someone in the psych ward. Family Dynamics - Sometimes family is the abuser. Perhaps the family feels they would trigger the sufferer and make matters worse if they show up. Mental Illness is very personal and because of the social stigma surrounding it, I would assume that most suffering from mental illnesses would want privacy and perhaps a little bit of visitation. I wouldn't want much. In saying this, perhaps despondent family and friends are avoiding because they truly empathize. It might not seem this way, but if the family member feels empathic towards the sufferer, the family member might feel that showing up might make the sufferer uncomfortable. Because if the family member would feel uncomfortable in the sufferer's shoes, why would they do it to the sufferer? Weird how sometimes we can mistake avoidance of family members for malice - when in reality it is a product of someone who is extremely empathic. Also. A tendency for, "healthy folk," to fear seeing someone they love in turmoil, and in the unsafe environment depicted in the cinematic psych ward. Like movies that show abuse and whatnot - yes it happens, everyone knows I will not attest this. They may not know what to expect. IS the patient dangerous to others, are they delusional, are they brain dead, etc. Fear. A lot of people are scared of what they don't understand. So they avoid. Anyways, HD7970ghz __________________ "stand for those who are forgotten - sacrifice for those who forget" "roller coasters not only go up and down - they also go in circles" "the point of therapy - is to get out of therapy" "don't put all your eggs - in one basket" "promote pleasure - prevent pain" "with change - comes loss" |
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I just got out of the hospital last week. I was lucky. My parents visited every night and one night I had a friend visit as well. Some of the barriers for people coming to visit me is that the hospital was over an hour away from where I live: between one and a quarter hours to one and a half hours, and also the visiting hours were only 6:15 PM to 7:45 PM. So that was a barrier for others. Also since I couldn't have my cell phone, a lot of my friends didn't even know I was in the hospital until afterwards because I don't have their phone numbers memorized. I would have liked to have more visitors more often but the hospital didn't allow that. HUGS Kit
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I've been an in patient twice, once for three weeks and once for about 10 days. Both times my husband and kids visited once or twice. That was enough for me. I did't want anyone else, except my sister, but we couldn't find a time that worked for both of us. I'm not sure how much visits the other patients had. But where I live it's very unusual to be in a phych ward for more than 1-2 months, and up to three weeks is the most normal. They want you out as soon as possible. When I was there for three weeks everyone was strongly urged to go home in the week-ends, which I know many felt was exhausting, me included.
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My husband usually visits when I'm in the hospital. He says that it's hard to see me in that state though. So he wouldn't come every day, but every other day sometimes. It may be the same for other people. We're at our worst in the hospital, whether we want to admit it or not. It's not easy on our loved ones either.
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In 30 years of treatment and countless hospitalizations, some lasting as long as a year, I can count on one hand the number of visitors I've had. It was a decision made with in consultation with my psychiatrist. We decided visitors would be a detriment for me. It was a smart decision in retrospect. I am glad no one saw me that psychotic. It made reentry back into life much easier.
In fairness, I was in the hospital for breast cancer treatment and I never wanted visitors either. Who wants to be watched while they are throwing up from chemo? |
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