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Default Jan 01, 2015 at 11:56 PM
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I worked and paid taxes for 25 years, so why does people make out like me trying and praying to get ssdi like I'm trying to get something for nothing. It's so hopefully I can get a little healthier so that I can find a job that will fit me and be competent doing instead of choosing any ole job like the past just to survive in order to pay bills. Would they rather pay for me to be in jail after I blow my top for being at a job around people I hate and can't deal with? I worked in retail for a decade after injuring back. I now absolutely hate and am having an extremely hard time dealing with people outside of my family. I have begun to hate people in general. However, prior to getting sick, I did fairly well with people. I never had customers or coworkers complain about me personally until I began getting sick.

How do I convince ssdi that I'm sick. My therapist is convinced. He says he hopes I am awarded ssdi. I'm trying to save from something bad eventually happening.

Like the story a couple of days ago where the guy put an end to he and his wife because she was bipolar, had tried sui, and was on a respirator. What a way to live.

I guess my old friend got under my skin this morning saying beggars can't be choosy about jobs and not having a pot to pee in and just in a round about way he tried to dog me out. What a pos friend he was.
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Default Jan 02, 2015 at 06:46 AM
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I just recently have been awarded disability, and for some reason I feel guilty about it and I've worked for 35 years and paid taxes so I don't know why I feel this way. My doctor and therapist both agreed that I didn't need to be working.

As far as how to qualify, I just filled out the paperwork and filed. My husband, doctor and therapist had to fill out paperwork, too. I was surprised that I wasn't turned down because I have read on here how hard it is to qualify, but mine went through.

I wish you luck and don't do like me and feel guilty. It's something you have earned.

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Thanks for your comfort. It's all been such a mess how mine came together. I once had confidence only in myself and no one else. Now I have no confidence in myself at all, and have placed my confidence in the hands of people who barely know me. Scary to say the least.

This has all been a nightmare for me and got me down. And when there's more people than jobs to sustain population, the weak must be eliminated theoretically. That even got mrntioned in a conversation I was having with someone last week. So, I expect to be denied again and after this long waiting process, it's going to crush my soul even more. I'm hoping to prevent the inevitable, but the inevitable looks to be the only successful path.

I'm due to see my therapist today. Maybe we can have a productive session today.
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I feel guilt for mine too
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Default Jan 03, 2015 at 03:53 PM
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Well at least its not SSI which you get if you haven't been able to hold a job in the first place...at least with SSDI you do have the defense of saying you paid taxes thus paid into it I cannot say that as I am on SSI. As for convinging SSDI you are sick/disabled you have to have documentation of whatever ailments you suffer from so medical records/diagnoses and then they determine if it prevents you from working....if they deny you initially you can likely appeal the decision though in that case best to get a disability attorney at least it tends to be.

But yeah it would seem in general there is stigma towards people who need any kind of welfare and/or government funded benefit, it is unfortunate but exists none-the-less.

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Thanks for your comfort. It's all been such a mess how mine came together. I once had confidence only in myself and no one else. Now I have no confidence in myself at all, and have placed my confidence in the hands of people who barely know me. Scary to say the least.

This has all been a nightmare for me and got me down. And when there's more people than jobs to sustain population, the weak must be eliminated theoretically. That even got mrntioned in a conversation I was having with someone last week. So, I expect to be denied again and after this long waiting process, it's going to crush my soul even more. I'm hoping to prevent the inevitable, but the inevitable looks to be the only successful path.

I'm due to see my therapist today. Maybe we can have a productive session today.
Well at least you have Metallica to validate how you are feeling,
Sad but True ect...
Remember don't give up because once you are accepted they will owe you from the time you first applied.
Also some advice when applying, make sure to mention
ALL physical/emotional episodes. ( childhood - adulthood ).

Have a family member write a letter on your behalf on how you have been in chronic pain and how it has IMPACTED their lives (Wife, Mother, Father, children, extended family also include friends, and past co workers *.)
Have these documents notarized.
Keep a journal. no really.

Chronic pain changes a person, their personality, and perspective about people and how they relate to/with the world. It decreases a persons ability to function. This will give the administrative judge a personal perspective.

This isn't permanent, you will have to adapt and learn new tools for coping.
Ask for help and then allow it in.
Lastly, Turn the page... see how I got all those songs in!
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Default Jan 04, 2015 at 11:30 PM
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[QUOTE=Lunatic Fringe;4186838]I worked and paid taxes for 25 years, so why does people make out like me trying and praying to get ssdi like I'm trying to get something for nothing. It's so hopefully I can get a little healthier so that I can find a job that will fit me and be competent doing instead of choosing any ole job like the past just to survive in order to pay bills. Would they rather pay for me to be in jail after I blow my top for being at a job around people I hate and can't deal with? I worked in retail for a decade after injuring back. I now absolutely hate and am having an extremely hard time dealing with people outside of my family. I have begun to hate people in general. However, prior to getting sick, I did fairly well with people. I never had customers or coworkers complain about me personally until I began getting sick.

How do I convince ssdi that I'm sick. My therapist is convinced. He says he hopes I am awarded ssdi. I'm trying to save from something bad eventually happening.

Like the story a couple of days ago where the guy put an end to he and his wife because she was bipolar, had tried sui, and was on a respirator. What a way to live.

I guess my old friend got under my skin this morning saying beggars can't be choosy about jobs and not having a pot to pee in and just in a round about way he tried to dog me out. What a pos friend he was.[/QUOTE

I just got sent home from work for exploding on my supervisor. I also hate most people. I swear at all drivers and have almost rammed somebody. I mostly hate my lazy coworkers, I have contemplated waiting for them in the parking lot and f'n vsome b**chs up.
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I worked and paid taxes for 25 years, so why does people make out like me trying and praying to get ssdi like I'm trying to get something for nothing. It's so hopefully I can get a little healthier so that I can find a job that will fit me and be competent doing instead of choosing any ole job like the past just to survive in order to pay bills. Would they rather pay for me to be in jail after I blow my top for being at a job around people I hate and can't deal with? I worked in retail for a decade after injuring back. I now absolutely hate and am having an extremely hard time dealing with people outside of my family. I have begun to hate people in general. However, prior to getting sick, I did fairly well with people. I never had customers or coworkers complain about me personally until I began getting sick.

How do I convince ssdi that I'm sick. My therapist is convinced. He says he hopes I am awarded ssdi. I'm trying to save from something bad eventually happening.

Like the story a couple of days ago where the guy put an end to he and his wife because she was bipolar, had tried sui, and was on a respirator. What a way to live.

I guess my old friend got under my skin this morning saying beggars can't be choosy about jobs and not having a pot to pee in and just in a round about way he tried to dog me out. What a pos friend he was.[/QUOTE

I just got sent home from work for exploding on my supervisor. I also hate most people. I swear at all drivers and have almost rammed somebody. I mostly hate my lazy coworkers, I have contemplated waiting for them in the parking lot and f'n vsome b**chs up.
You must manage people and notice when you are on that fringe to pull yourself back in. You can say that 99% of people are selfish a..holes, that means there are MILLIONS who aren't.
You will do yourself a disservice with verbal aggression even if it is defending yourself.
Sad but true, calm down, notice when someone is baiting you!
Keep notes, follow policy, and hold on...
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Default Jan 06, 2015 at 02:30 AM
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Lunatic Fringe. Are you nuts really? If so I love cashews, macadamias and brazil. Nothing quite a bit of crunch in life.

The paperwork that needs to be done to get welfare is very anxiety provoking. Bleah.
People who look at you differently do not understand what it is to be mentally ill. Some of them do not want to understand either. Your real friends will stay your real friends.

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