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Unhappy May 20, 2018 at 04:56 PM
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context: I identify as genderfluid and AFAB (assigned female at birth).

I've been really down and confused about how to talk to my doctor lately. I've always had periods that were very mild and only came every few months. my doctor's really well-meaning, but she's been putting me on this treatment that causes me to have monthly periods. now every time I have a period it causes lots of issues, like clotting, cramps and nausea, bloating... I want to ask to stop the treatment, but I feel like she's going to talk about how a "regular" period is healthy, etc...

I can tell she wants the best for me but I'm unsure if it's actually necessary for people with uteruses to have a "regular" period. I feel like this is not regular for *my* body. I felt way less worse when I barely had a period.

at the beginning of the treatment she also kind of just assumed I'd be okay with starting the treatment, that I'd want to be pregnant someday and so would need my period, etc.

there are LOTS of reasons I don't want my period (it affects my chronic pain and general low-energy, meatless diet, questions of gender, etc). in fact I've seriously considered ways to medically stop it.

idk, I'm mostly venting and worrying aloud at this point. thank you for reading if you've read this far...
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Heart May 20, 2018 at 08:11 PM
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Hi smallbluefish,

This is a great topic.

I do think your doctor is trying to keep you healthy!

When women are not in menopause, they need to menstruate to shed the lining of the uterus. If this lining thickens, it can lead to cancer.

I can understand how you are having all kinds of difficulties due to your period and you are suffering quite a bit!

Any chance you could be as honest with your doctor?
She may have a way to help you out. Your feelings (and symptoms) are not "unusual," as in you won't be shocking your doctor. I think she can help you!


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Default May 20, 2018 at 08:35 PM
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I'm questioning my gender and I loathe my periods. I'm much happier on hormonal contraception that has stopped my periods. AFAB bodies do NOT need to have regular periods...Hormonal contraception is often used to lighten heavy and painful periods as well as regulate irregular ones (3 week hormonal, 1 week placebo for the withdrawal bleed).

However you really don't need a period and my GP gave me hormonal contraception without the placebo pills. Your uterus lining won't thicken on it as how it works is by stopping ovulation or by thickening the cervical mucus or by thinning your uterine lining so an egg can't implant. Many AFAB folks are under the misconception that your period "builds up inside" but that is a myth.

https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-cont...o-more-periods
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Hi, I'm a cis woman who hates my period. I have used various forms of hormonal birth control that prevent the uterine lining from thickening and therefore eliminate monthly periods. Periods are not necessary and preventing them will not cause any ill effects. There are several options available from oral medications, implants, shots and certain IUDs. All of which are reversible of course. A permanent solution would be an endometrial ablation which is an outpatient procedure that destroys the uterine lining. Anyway, just some ideas to discuss with your doctor
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