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Old 06-07-2018, 10:53 PM #11
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Hi Skeezyks ,

Far to long my friend , life happens.

I have read the data , and yes what we are going through can be a thing of the past if the parents are willing to help , a prepubescent child with the support of his or her parents , the whole dysphoria thing would not happen.

In the case of a young male not understanding the genitalia of there birth sex and are showing signs of female traits , then all the parents need to do is see a qualified gender doctor and with the child`s understanding be but on testosterone blockers and never have to go through puberty and can start to present as there desired sex.

Then when old enough HRT can begin , say 17 or 18 , and by the early twenties could very easily transition , I would suggest ongoing therapy as there may be a few bumps along the way , but no where near the dysphoria we must endure.

I hear you , we must be about the same age , you might even be younger than me.

I am 65 and have lived a dysphoric life for as long as I can remember , I have never been gay , and speaking for me , I am not really found of the term.

I was born a male with a complete distain of my birth sex , that does not make me gay !!
I suppose if I transitioned earlier in life , I might be called a lesbian I would much rather hang with the girls , and not the guys.

There would be times I would see a beautiful girl and wish so much I could be like her.
Walk through a dept. store and pass the cosmetics and wish I could smell like that , or see the clothes wishing I could find some that actually fit !!

O__ I know dysphoria all to well , I have been working on a paper about dysphoria and how it is not just a gender related term , if you look to the text you will find dysphoria means being in an uneasy state of mind , that is the first definition , and of course the term gender dysphoria is also represented.

So I could go and talk with any educated person and say I am feeling dysphoric today , and have the meaning be that I am uneasy about something happening in my life.

But as we both know , baring some sort of miracle , we will pass to the next life in the wrong body , all to sad.

You take care , OK , I will try not to be a stranger , I would still like to start my own transgender friendly clothing line if you know anyone who can run a sewing machine and drafts my ideas into patterns , I would sure like to have you on board , so if we can find the right people we might just have a business we both could use and have always wanted.

Feel free to PM anytime , take care in a friendly way but not a gay way

Take care ,

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Hi Keyplayer:

I'm about to turn 70! This is my second time here on PC. When I was here before, I used to post my own threads in this forum... not anymore. I could write a book here regarding my GID issues. But I'll spare you the details.

For me this is all mostly just looking in the rearview mirror so to speak. Occasionally I do manage to come up with some novel way of looking at things I hadn't thought of before. But at this late stage in my life it's all just pretty-much water under the bridge, as we used to say.

Actually I'm not even convinced I was genuinely transgender. What occurs to me is that my GID issues may have just been one aspect of a broader mental illness. But the fact is I'll never know. It all started so early in life, before I even have any memories, that there's simply no way to sort it all out.

I think your idea for a clothing line is a great one! I used to search for clothes that I thought gave me a bit more of a feminine appearance. And I think I was fairly successful at it by-&-large. Nowadays though I rarely leave home. So I don't need much of anything at all. My suggestion, as far as sewing & draft ideas goes, would be to see if you can get in touch with some costume makers who are involved with theater groups in your area. These people would likely have all of the requisite skills you would need to make this happen. Where I live there are lots of these folks around because there's a large theater community here.
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Hi Skeezyks ,

I understand , it sux being so confused all the time . I am not really confused that much since I came out to my T last Sept 27th.

But the dysphoria never leaves , it constantly bugging me. I am 65 , will be 66 in Nov.

We have both seen our fair share , I hear you , that would be a good idea , but they would ask why , and living in NH , is not like Mass , even though it is only a 15 minute drive .

I watch there Pride Day parade in Boston on tv , and up here in NH , there was no mention of Pride month at all .

Not a trans friendly state , that is for sure.

Sorry I could not get back to you earlier , I have been in self destruct mode , June 7 was the 13 anniversary of my moms passing and this Friday the 15th will be 3 years I lost my dad.

I told my T , I was out clearing the back of my mobile home lot so the park owner would not charge me , and I worked a weed-whacker like 3 hours straight without a break , because I didn't`t care. By the time I was done I had such a pull in my right elbow tendon I could not bring my right hand to my face , it was the weirdest thing , it didn't`t hurt , my arm just would not bend , it was ok that evening , but I am so down , I would not care if it feel off .

I went through this last year , that is why I sought out a therapist , I have been trying so freak`n hard to overcome all the crap , sometimes , I would just as soon cash in my chips.

But it is weird , because I am not suicidal , I just don`t care , if death came knocking , I would probably ask him in for a beer before we left !! LOL

I am ok , just a very dark time for me right now , take care , be well .

I`m trying LOL

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