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Old 02-05-2020, 11:58 AM   #1
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I knew I was attracted to men when i was 11 or 12, but i refused to accept it until i was 17. I went to a Christian highschool, so i was forced to repress it in an effort to not get kicked out of school. I also figured my parents wouldn't accept it. I came out to friends at 17, and to my whole family between ages 18 and 19. i am now 20. What is your story?
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Old 02-08-2020, 05:52 AM   #2
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Around the age of 13. I didn’t really know it then but I had some suspicions about my sexual orientation.
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Old 02-09-2020, 03:35 PM   #3
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Thank you for sharing!
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Old 02-09-2020, 04:08 PM   #4
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I knew I was attracted to men when i was 11 or 12, but i refused to accept it until i was 17. I went to a Christian highschool, so i was forced to repress it in an effort to not get kicked out of school. I also figured my parents wouldn't accept it. I came out to friends at 17, and to my whole family between ages 18 and 19. i am now 20. What is your story?
with me being a lesbian wasn't a choice it was how I was born. my family has stories of when even as young as 3 years old I would have "crushes" on my little girl friends. in elementary school I again gravitated to one or two girls that I thought were pretty, and I loved them. in jr high when I started dating my dating interests were girls/ women.

in high school I had a crush on one of my teachers and a few girls around my age. the teacher recognized a budding crush in me just like they can tell when a boy-girl couple is beginning to show their crushes and love interests. she pulled me aside after class and explained to me that though she understood I could not help who I was falling in love with because love is love and its normal and a wonderful thing when you find that in your life but her love interests are men, not to mention its illegal for teachers and students to get together romantically. it was ok to admire and think of her as pretty and such but I had to turn my focus to those around my own age. in fact she had a friend who has a girl who loves girls just about my age and would I like to meet her and maybe hang out a bit with her. I said yes and that teen and I though we didn't find the match of a life time we did enjoy each others company.

in college young adulthood I enjoyed being with and dating women

and now Im a happily married woman to a wonderful woman and 4 children.
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Old 02-11-2020, 08:21 PM   #5
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Aww that makes me so happy! I am so glad you found your person! I found mine as well!
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I had a member of the same sex flirt with me at a party. Then I realized, hey, I'm as attracted to them just as much as I would be the opposite sex. I thought I was bisexual, until I learned that bisexuals weren't attracted to newhalfs. I'm fine with newhalfs. So then I assumed I was pansexual.

But the more I think about it, the more I realize that I'm just a sadomasochist. It doesn't really matter who or what is at the end. I don't think that's a sexual orientation, but if it is that's what I am. It's never really been about any kind of body type at all, as long as they're down for S&M and I can do it legally. Whether this means I'm still technically a pansexual or a fetishist seems to be a weird point of debate. If I'm a fetishist, there's another debate on whether that can be considered a part of the LGBT spectrum or not.

So that's how I went from not LGBT to LGBT to "sometimes considered LGBT depending on who you ask." I'm glad to be so liminal in everything I do. It's also interesting that my sexuality is so deeply affected by my pathology to the point of inheriting my obsession with power dynamics. Hooray!
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When I was in the 6th grade there was a girl I felt differently around in a good way but I didn't understand why at the time. Then when she changed her hairstyle I didn't feel that way about her anymore. I realized later I had a crush on her. As I got older I continued to have crushes on other women. I now identify as a lesbian.
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I knew I was gay when I found out what it was at like 11. But I went to a Christian school, and I only learned what it was because my aunt hated my cousin for it, I tried to ignore it until I was about 15 and started telling friends around then too. I came out to my family at 16.
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