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Old 11-04-2020, 10:45 AM   #1
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Default I prefer to be called gay, a gay woman not a lesbian

I don't like the term - a lesbian.
I think it is the A infront of lesbian
That offends me.
I am a person.
I am a woman.
I don't see myself as a lesbian
I feel like the term represents
Being called an alien, an anomaly, a separate
From normal people. A something else.
Men are gay. Gay men.
Women should be gay women.
Women who happen to be gay.
Don't tell me it is just a term,
A means to describe a person.
It is falling out of style
And I think more
Women would feel more
Comfortable in their
Own skin and to come out,
if a lesbian was dropped
In favour of a more modern
And appropriate term
To describe a woman's orientation.
I say that I am gay.
Trans people. They are trans.
Men. They are gay men.
Bisexual. They are Bisexual.
Women attracted to other women only,
Are a something else.
Not lesbian woman. A lesbian.
I dislike the otherness of the term.
That is why I say that I am gay.
Are you a lesbian?
I try not to hesitate
And say yes, I'm gay.
Ah so you are...
(then they pause too ...)
A lesbian.
You don't look like.... One.
Even straight people
Have trouble saying a lesbian.
Watch Peter Kay
And his curly hair sketch.
So they are a....

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Old 11-04-2020, 11:09 AM   #2
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Default Re: I prefer to be called gay, a gay woman not a lesbian

Dear Lunatyc,

I like what you wrote.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

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Old 11-10-2020, 08:41 AM   #3
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I don't need kids to be happy.
I accept that I am gay
And choose to be kid free.
I am happy with my choice.
It's what I want. It's my life.
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Default Re: I prefer to be called gay, a gay woman not a lesbian

I don't have any gay friends.
I am not a fan of the
In vogue phrase: the Lgbt community.
As if to say people
Who are not heterosexual
Are a separate community.
However I gloss over
It when I hear it on the news
Because it's just an umbrella term
Such as Bame( Black, Asian and Ethnic minorities)
This will, hopefully, change in time,
And we won't need
To group people under labels.
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I never thought of the concept of "a lesbian" like that. Back then, a man couldn't be anything other than a man and live up to the masculinity that manhood requires...so gay men were known as "a homosexual". The "a homosexual" was "the other" label for a gay man. Now, the term "homosexual" is becoming outdated.

Times do change. There are new labels created every day to help identify those under a blanket of identities and pronouns. I myself am lost as to what I called myself. In high school, I was questioning; now I'm clueless. But part of creating who I am is to explore the identities and frequencies. If you do not want to be called "a lesbian", make it known to your loved ones. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable to be who you are.
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