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Apr 07, 2013 at 05:26 PM
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I'm 37, and up till 3yrs ago sex was just sex, it was nothing special and I could live without it or without it, if I was single. I never pushed a girl for sex, I have never had a one night stand, I have had 5 sexual partners, and I have never been with or want to be with a prostitute. Here's the question. Is this normal?
The woman I am seeing now, opened my eyes to what sex could be. Since this has happened, although I have never cheated on her (there have been plenty of opportunities) I find that I want sex ALL the time. I am ALWAYS horny and ready, and it has gotten to be a running joke where it's predicable with what I will say, how I will act, even going so far as getting an erection when we kiss! I love her with all my heart, but sex once a week is not enough for me and we can't do it more often due to other concerns. I have suggested going to a hotel room for the night, not staying, just 5 or 6 hrs in the room. I'm not going to cheat on her to get more sex, but this feeling f being constantly horny is really distracting. Last edited by douglas76; Apr 07, 2013 at 05:28 PM.. Reason: Typographical |
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Apr 09, 2013 at 11:17 AM
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Maybe it is not the sex, maybe it is being with this woman and the sex with her?
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Apr 10, 2013 at 11:28 AM
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I don't know. When I ask for sex, it upsets her. When I ask for sexy pics, or if I can take some myself of her, she agrees to please me. What do I need to do to get her to understand that I don't have a problem, that it is normal for me to have this reaction to someone that I find so beautiful, sexy, and desirable that even being in her presence excites me and makes my heart flutter.
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Apr 10, 2013 at 11:03 PM
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Sometimes it is hard to get the other person in a relationship to like things you like.
Can you talk to her, in just a one on one discussion and see what you both can come up with as far as your dislikes and likes, and then try to work towards that goal? You both may have to give and take a little. Other than that, I would suggest possibly trying to see a couples therapist, probably. 
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Apr 28, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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After that if its still a problem, have your testosterone levels checked by your PCP fasting and by no later than 9am...its the most accurate level that way
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May 10, 2013 at 11:52 AM
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douglas,
Don't think there's an underlying pathology with you. She might just be generating high amounts of pheromones or using a pheromone spray. Since I'm an amateur psychopharmacologist, I look at the biological reasons for something occurring. She could also be hypomanic and hypersexual or on the worst side, have some serious emotional/psychiatric problem and intense sex is part of its repertoire. Borderline Personality Disorder comes to mind, since my wife, when we first met, couldn't get enough sex. She also has BPD and sex died out years ago. |
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Jun 13, 2013 at 08:16 PM
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I wonder if it is lust you have with her. You got something from her you never had and now you want it all the time. I can see where you could be attracted to her and how you are in love.
She woke something up in you the other women did not. Not sure what to tell you. There are things you want and you should enjoy those things. If she is unwilling or unable maybe it's not the best situation for you. I think you both need to sit down privately and have a long talk. |
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Jun 17, 2013 at 02:11 AM
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I think it is. You just need to give her some space and things will turn out fine in due course of time.
If you ask for it all the time, she might start taking you to be a nymphomaniac which is not something you really are so let it be. |
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