Feeling Stupid.....

My wife and I are getting a divorce. I am still in love with her. I have been willing to forgive things and move on but she is doing this up and down thing.....one weekend she wants to get back together....then by that Sunday nite she is calling me crying and saying that she can not be marriied...yet she talks about guys she has met online that she is falling in love with. I still talk to her because I love her. I want her to be happy...but you know what? What about ME? I am in this too. And this is breaking me apart. ...literally.. ....I am surffering from depression and now I am here taking care of my mother with no help. I have no idea what my future is going to be like now....when I thought it was all set....,I am getting anngry with myself for the fact thaty just today I sent her an email saying I loved her and will do anything to keep us together......and she responds with she just doens't know. What is it going to take for me to realize that I just need to move on.......let her be happy but also let myself be happy. I am feeling so stupid for even trying once again.

Tobey

No need to feel stupid for expressing the feelings you had at the time...

I've been through a divorce. Six months into separation we were going to try to make it work. It didn't.

I would imagine both of you are confused? It's a huge decision...Do you have children?'

Keep doing the things that are good for you...

By the way (at least in my state) there is a legal separation, where you have protections...while you figure it out...

Thanks for your reply. There are no children which now is a good thing. This is my second divorce. I never thought my life was going to be like this. I mean I did everything I was suppose to do and here I am sitting with another court date being set this coming Monday. I think I am pretty much done with being married. It just does not seem to work for me. Now I just need to focus on me and what the rest of my life holds.

T

Good luck...

By the way when I told my p-doc I was going to swear off dating for a year - he gave me this to think about.

Or you could use the year to practice dating?

Anyway - please do concentrate on you...