Tough Times of being surrounded by too many women

Hello, ARich here. Been in many forums; Depression, Transgender, Addictions, Codependency, Bipolar and now Men.
My battle cry this past several months will be that it will get worse before things get better. That had to do with finances. That did get better. But now, surrounded by two women dominating my life I can't seem to think for myself and get to where I want to be in life. Things will change in another week, I tell myself - but I will have to fight for it.
I have been a nomad, the past two years of my life. Especially since after my wife retired. She wants to be a vagabond, I want to be settled somewhere. But I have been yo-yo'd back and forth between three states-my wife wanting to return to Oklahoma, me wanting to stay in New Mexico (where we came from, last place previously settled) and my 90 year old mom needing my help here in Oregon. Last year the longest I was in one location at one time was in Oklahoma for 10 weeks. This year, Oregon has broken records and have been here almost 3 months. Women driving me nuts and letting them controlling me basically. Can I say Codependency here? The plot thickens as more I will add.

Best wishes for finding the settled life you seek...

Hope you work it out. It seems fair to me to do a little of both, moving & visiting, then staying put. I'd lay a plan on the table then talk it over, you'll then know how your wife feels about it. After that is known, evaluate your next move.

That next move doesn't have to be extreme, but there will be some cards to play.

Another thing to do is explore & develop some of your own interests while going places she likes.