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Old 08-30-2019, 03:00 AM   #1
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I know she has physical reasons for not liking or wanting sex. But I need some kind of physical connection with her. Itís not even just sex. She basically never even touches me. Just a bull**** kiss hello or goodbye. She seems to have lost all her femininity. I need physical touch in my life. Sexually or in any way.
She wonít go to couples counseling. Wonít talk about it. I feel like my feelings donít mean a damn thing to her. I wish I had the ***** to just leave.
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Old 08-30-2019, 08:06 AM   #2
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I went through all this for a long time. Almost two years, nothing, not even a kiss. She claimed that she didn't like kissing. It was, in my case, efforts to push my mental disorder around and cause an episode. It worked. I broke down. I was hospitalized. I divorced her.
Are you in counseling?
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I went through all this for a long time. Almost two years, nothing, not even a kiss. She claimed that she didn't like kissing. It was, in my case, efforts to push my mental disorder around and cause an episode. It worked. I broke down. I was hospitalized. I divorced her.
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Yes......but I think we BOTH need to go ! Of course thereís nothing wrong with her , itís me. Look , I couldnít do anything sexual , ( myself ) , for a long time because of physical problems. If she came to me and said she needed to be pleased, I would have . But she didnít. Probably went elsewhere , but I canít prove that. The fact is she doesnít even want to touch. She treats me like a leper. Iím beginning to take it personal. I know how much women lie.
And she says Iím stressing HER out !!! Ugh..
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This sounds so much like my situation, I got turned down or ignored for sex so many times over 3 to 4 years I quit asking. Every 3-6 months she will initiate, and I can't say no. She is pre-menopausal, but refuses any hormone replacement therapy. Plus there is NO affection or warmth. Today I am feeling especially awful, I told her so, all I got was "sorry, I hope you feel better". No talking to me, no touching, nothing. Today my suicidal thoughts are especially strong. I am starting to believe my thoughts that she wants me gone, however I may leave.
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This sounds so much like my situation, I got turned down or ignored for sex so many times over 3 to 4 years I quit asking. Every 3-6 months she will initiate, and I can't say no. She is pre-menopausal, but refuses any hormone replacement therapy. Plus there is NO affection or warmth. Today I am feeling especially awful, I told her so, all I got was "sorry, I hope you feel better". No talking to me, no touching, nothing. Today my suicidal thoughts are especially strong. I am starting to believe my thoughts that she wants me gone, however I may leave.
I can ID with you 100%. Iíll tell you one thing. My wife did have serious medical issues that negate her taking any hormone replacement therapy. Once that happens , well , thatís it. I get that. BUT , itís my belief that you donít NEED hormones to have feelings and be intimate. I believe that thatís a separate issue. Thereís no reason, I believe , that even without a sexual drive a woman cannot ď take care ď of her man just to at least keep him happy and the marriage going !
Most women are robotic when it comes to sex anyway , Iím talking about how many times they ď fake ď orgasm or the whole thing altogether when they are not in the ď mood ď.
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Thereís no reason, I believe , that even without a sexual drive a woman cannot ď take care ď of her man just to at least keep him happy and the marriage going !
Once either spouse begins to perceive intimacy as a chore, it's only a matter of time before both parties begin to resent each other.

That being said, there's a psychological aspect to sex and intimacy that can be enjoyed, but that takes a considerable amount of skill and a willingness to explore new and exciting activities. Like BDSM. Personally, I get off more on watching my partners squirm than I do from anything else.

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Most women are robotic when it comes to sex anyway , Iím talking about how many times they ď fake ď orgasm or the whole thing altogether when they are not in the ď mood ď.
Have you tried engaging them in sex instead of just worrying about your needs getting taken care of?
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Not saying this is the case with you, but most men I have been with don't even try to please me. They just do what feels good to them. It makes me feel like I don't matter. When sex is like that, women will not want to do it.
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