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I believe my mother really has NPD. Of course, she’d spit in my face if I even suggested anything and she’d never go to a psych, she’d do the same to them. She meets all the criteria and she’s getting worse.

She was really not like this all her life. She was generally a good, even a great person. She may have showed some high traits of narcissism, and yes there was some verbal and emotional abuse, but I never thought anything abnormal of her (until I learned it was abnormal), it wasn’t so bad.

But she’s in her 80’s now, and over the past several years, something has worsened with her to the point where I am now really very worried for her and feel sorry for her.

I suffered a major depression while going through such a hurt from realizing the toxicity of my whole family dynamic surrounding her and came out of it to accept it is what it is. I keep my distance now, but still try to maintain some contact.

I feel strong enough to deal with Mom, now accepting she really has a disorder. I’m not going to let her suck me in to toxic drama. I feel sorry for her, and I don’t want to see her suffer. I want to love her in the time she has left.

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Thanks for sharing this. I'm 71 now. So not all that far behind your mom. Everything does seem to get worse as a person ages it seems to me. At least that's been my own experience. I don't think anyone would have ever said I was a "good person". But I at least kept it together until I reached 50. It's been mostly downhill ever since. I'm glad you're able to maintain contact & love your mom despite her abuse. She's fortunate to have you.

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