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Default Apr 20, 2020 at 11:26 PM
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Here's an interesting article about how to de-escalate an argument with an NDP:

How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist | Psychology Today Canada

I'll admit, some of the strategies kinda ticked me off..
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No wonder you got ticked off reading some of these, in my opinion some of them cross the line into enabling it all (and giving free supply) more than anything.
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Agreed. My job has more than a fair number of narcissists and on some occasions I've used those and it actually fed the negative behavior as it seemed to them that I was a doormat. In many of these situations I switched to passive-aggression and showing fangs when needed and, while the conflict wasn't resolved, they went away.
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Husband just went off on me about how all my friends have been strange or vicious ‘frenemies’ or “*****s”, and that I have one or two nice friends. I’m not sure why he even brought it up. What was he trying to say to me, about me? Was he looking to cut me down? Was he saying I am sub par?

I didn’t even respond, just ignored him. Why feed a stupid conversation?

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Default Apr 21, 2020 at 04:47 PM
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No wonder you got ticked off reading some of these, in my opinion some of them cross the line into enabling it all (and giving free supply) more than anything.
LOL I won't lie, I didn't read it all. I will but, under my circumstances, it boiled my blood a bit.
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Husband just went off on me about how all my friends have been strange or vicious ‘frenemies’ or “*****s”, and that I have one or two nice friends. I’m not sure why he even brought it up. What was he trying to say to me, about me? Was he looking to cut me down? ......

I didn’t even respond, just ignored him. Why feed a stupid conversation?
Yep, ignoring that sort of crap is usually wise. Why feed a stupid conversation. lol Well put

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Agreed. My job has more than a fair number of narcissists and on some occasions I've used those and it actually fed the negative behavior as it seemed to them that I was a doormat. In many of these situations I switched to passive-aggression and showing fangs when needed and, while the conflict wasn't resolved, they went away.
lol. This made me smile .. I too have done similar a couple of times.

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Default Feb 25, 2021 at 10:46 AM
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Here's an interesting article about how to de-escalate an argument with an NDP:

How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist | Psychology Today Canada

I'll admit, some of the strategies kinda ticked me off..
I will check this out myself. Thank you for the links.
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Default Feb 26, 2021 at 07:19 AM
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I think it is common sense. A person can't argue/fight by themselves, so........do not respond. There is an old saying....you don't have to accept an invitation to fight with anyone.
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