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i'd like advice on accepting things you can't change
like.. when you're rooteen is set in stone, you know what time you want to do something, how many of an item you want, etc, and then something changes out of your control and you have to settle for second best? like: I like even numbers, and having to settle for an odd number (completely out of your control), or setting a certain time for something, and again, out of your control, it has to happen a few minits before/ after the given time I'd really like tips on how to manage this. they needs to be more I can do than just go in to anxiety mode and have a meltdown about it. |
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An example I can think of would be when my 16 year old had a boyfriend. I knew she was having sex and it was so hard to deal with. I also knew I had to protect her. So I sat her down and told her I knew and that we were going to the gyn for birth control. She was shocked and tried for a hot minute to deny it but the "im not stupid" look on my face stopped that real quick. Did I like her having sex? No way. I thought she was too young and this boy did not seem worthy- but it was her body. I valued the honesty over the discomfort. And me saying no wouldnt stop her. She would do it anyway so my job was to get her birth control and really lay out the importance of disease prevention. __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society. |
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I think you hit the nail on the head, when you talked about your younger years and being more chilled (me too.) using my morning rooteen as an example, when I was younger, I didn't give a ****. if I ate at 7 or at half 8, or even at 9, that was fine with me. didn't get dressed until 10 to 9?. fine with me too. now I have to be dressed by 7 A.M, have breakfast by 8 30, and back in my bedroom by 9 (and their is no room for being late/ early) if I'm dressed by 6 30, for example, it's not good enough... I need to have my clothes on by the time the clock says 7 (if I'm dressed by 6 30 their's still half an hour left) also I can't eat breakfast at 8 31 or 8 29, the clock has to say 8 30 or I don't eat if their's a power cut, a phonecall, something lost, what ever... then that's it- total freak out, I've failed and get angry and sulky about it exact same for anything in my day that is proper rooteen for me |
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I should say that I have emsomnia too and it really sucks when you have lots of time and you don't know what to do with yourself
I mean I could get dressed at 5, for example, but that isn't my rooteen |
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