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It is unhealthy thinking. Yikes, is it normal to set up the age we want to live?

When I was very young, 50 seemed old. As I aged, 50 became the new 30.


I think a lot of that though is down to life expectancy

years ago you couldn't live to 50, and if you could you were lucky
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How morbid. How insulting to those of us over 50. My best years thus far were my forties and this 52nd year is shaping up to be a fabulous one.

Please don't sell yourself short are the words that come to mind. How unfortunate you should think this way.

What more can I say? There is a sense of freedom that comes with middle age. I am no longer pressured to look a certain way. At 30 I felt I still was required to look 19. At 40 I felt pressured to maintain a youthful appearance and be impossibly slender. Now at 50 I feel a liberation from that pressure to conform. There is freedom from other mindsets too. Essentially I am free to be who I want to be and my worries about judgement are starting to subside. I still have my moments but it is easier to hold my head up high in a crowd. My relationships have improved with age too.

I feel for you that you see no value in getting older. Self-doubt must be strong. Am I correct in that there are some self-worth and self esteem troubles in your life?

oh, deffenetly

and I'm sure being over 50 has it's rewards

one of my grandads, for example, worked really hard in his adult life, quit his job when he was 50, and found a new life for himself- he became a fan of fishing, went on a cruise, other vacations, baught a caravan, etc

but that's him.

I don't want to buy a caravan, know, and to be quite honest, I don't fancy fishing- but my point is that he lived quite comfortably because he spent most of his adult life in a well paying job

I don't even have that

my point is.. what I'm trying to say is,

if you have something to live for, and if you have goals, then living to 50, 60, 70, even 80... if it works for you, do it

but if you don't, and if you've spent your entire life sat at home wondering about your very existance, yeah... I really don't see the appeal

either people have plans, or they don't

I don't have plans for the next 20 minits, forget a few days/ years from now
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terry pratchett once said that life wouldn't be worth it once he couldn't do what he enjoyed doing (in his case writing)

so, if I have nothing I really enjoy (accept for listening to music and the internet) I think terry makes a dam good case
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I want to be 100--I am 72 and feel 18!
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...is this wrong?


No, I don't think it's wrong to entertain such a notion. All through my youth and the years leading up to the age of 50 I've thought of 50 as being old as well - I still do - and I turned 50 last month! - but I still feel like I'm in my twenties! Madness!! And a weird thing happens for me as well: when I look in the mirror I still look, for me, to be around age 30 or so, but if I take a selfie - omgoodness!, I look 60! Haha. But it's obvious by peoples responses etc., that I look 50. People say 'Sir' to me now - which I like :-)

But, no. Just keep plodding along, your feelings will change as time goes by. And things you may like now you may not like in the future and vice versa you see. The person may change.
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I donít think itís wrong either. Your feelings might change as time goes by, hugs.
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My real life began at 54.....for the first time I experienced peace & an involvement in community. Life was finally what I always thought life should be like. Shoot I am still riding horses at 66, I have the farm I always dreamed of having & I am no longer married to the guy who made my life miserable. Life is finally good.....so as long as I am finally very healthy.....I want to enjoy life as long as possible to make up for lost time.
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I want to be 100--I am 72 and feel 18!


and of course get a letter from the queen

well I'm not sure who you get a letter from outside the UK, but in the UK if you turn 100 you get one from the queen
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and of course get a letter from the queen

well I'm not sure who you get a letter from outside the UK, but in the UK if you turn 100 you get one from the queen

Oh, neat! Wish I lived in the UK!
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I am 53. Guess I am three years over the limit. I think I am still quite young though.

Do you have a therapist who can help you looking for something you can do thatís useful like volunteer helping others? It could give your life more meaning
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