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Default May 25, 2019 at 09:51 AM
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I suffer from anxiety like everyone else but mostly for things that could happen that I try to avoid. But for things that have happened, that I can't do anything about, I have a strong ability to put them behind me. To box them off and forget about them. On occasion they might come out and the may inform my current behavior, like getting upset if someone makes a joke that could be considered mean, but I am very able to deny deny deny.

Anyone else?

I have a friend who just got demoted and she is texting all night saying she can't sleep and is so upset. She couldn't work yesterday because she is so upset. But it is hard for me to really relate. To me.. it would be a great opportunity to do a job I am capable of and show people that I can do jobs after having a boss that was not a good match. Instead she is wallowing in self pity.

So much crap in my life has happened and I never talk about it and just put it in a box and hit the empty trash button. I know it happened but I don't keep it in the front of my mind.

In a way this hurts me as I find that if you aren't constantly talking about it other people assume you have never suffered.
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No... personally I'm haunted by stuff from the past. I wish I had the ability to put it all in a box & forget about it. I do think you're correct about how not constantly talking about stuff that happened hurts you because other people assume you have never suffered. I don't talk about any of what I have experienced in my life. And I do believe that, as a result, there is an assumption I never suffered. It's kind-of the proverbial "catch 22". People don't really want to hear it to begin with. But if you don't talk about it they assume nothing happened. I don't know what the answer is... or if there even is one...

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I don't talk about any of what I have experienced in my life. And I do believe that, as a result, there is an assumption I never suffered. It's kind-of the proverbial "catch 22". People don't really want to hear it to begin with. But if you don't talk about it they assume nothing happened. I don't know what the answer is... or if there even is one...
Thanks for the response. Definitely. I never mention anything bad that happened to me because to do so would be pulling it out of the box, letting it occupy space in my head and giving it a strong presence in my head. But other people sort of revolve around the bad things that happened in their lives... as if those things define them.

When something bad happens to me, for the most part, I don't let it get into my brain. I like keep it on the top of my brain, don't really concentrate on it and pack it up and put it in a box. That really seems to minimize it and I could even forget about it.
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I don't call it denial.....I call it "not obcessing" about the bad things that have happened.

I have had some bad stuff & trauma happen. I don't NEED to constantly talk about it or have it in my current mind processing. If something comes up in conversation I will discuss what happened but my friends know what I have gone through & why I am where I am today. Not because I kept talking about it but becsuse it did come out in bits & pieces through NORMAL conversations. Not denial as I know what has happened & I just choose not to obcess or dwell on it.

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