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Default Jun 03, 2019 at 03:30 PM
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I wrote a novel on domestic terrorism and tied in ghosts..as there are ghosts in my historical setting.
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Default Jun 04, 2019 at 09:13 AM
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I haven't read any of the replies yet, so apologies if I'm being repetitive to anything anyone else has said.

My gym offers morning (early and late morning) exercise classes. There are also different exercise groups like walking, running, swimming, basketball. If you like to exercise, or want to for mood, that might be a consideration for you, if you have an affordable gym in your area that also offers lots of different social things.

I hear you on the afternoon social groups. I took a Polish class once, and I was the only non-retired (but not working) person, and it was awkward. Its good you are open to different people though, while also wanting to protect yourself and be comfortable.

Yes. I was going to suggest volunteering, but I hear you on not being ready for that.

Yes there are meet up groups that meet more towards the after work scene. Not all. I personally have found meet up to be a drag, and difficult to find what I'm looking for, so I hear you. I say don't give up on it though. There's no perfect thing.

Do you go to church or want to go to church? Not sure if you are religious or spiritual. If not there may be a humanitarian group in our area (for those who are atheist and agnostic but also spiritual).

There are some organizations in my own area, for people with mental health issues. That can come with its own set of issues, like not being able to truly connect with some people, because of the issues they have and things they are struggling with. But this is something I sometimes utilize.

I also see the value in going out in nature, in a public place to write or knit. Or to a coffee shop by myself.

Speaking of nature, nature centers here have social activities for people as well.
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Default Jun 08, 2019 at 10:10 AM
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I do exactly what you're not supposed to do, I sleep all day while listening to pod casts or music. I have few friends any longer and am basically a hermit.
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Default Jun 11, 2019 at 06:36 AM
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Make a phone call to a friend and meet up or invite friend to come to my place. Sometimes it's takes a little effort to add changes to one day.
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Default Jun 11, 2019 at 07:55 PM
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I'm still looking for work, but occasionally I meet up with a friend for lunch, go to a museum or art gallery. It's much harder than it used to be, considering most (if not all) of my friends work. I've become more isolated too.

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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 02:09 PM
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spirit of trees...offer to volunteer at one of those museums. you'll meet more people, develop new skills and who knows eventually might even get offered a job...museums are always looking for volunteers..always. usually you get discounts at the store there & food...and there can be either tons of interaction with people or none depending on what type of position you end up with. but it's always fun and interesting...and you meet a whole new community of people...plus there are usually access passes to other museums as well.
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Default Jun 13, 2019 at 05:36 PM
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I go to a mental health recovery center twice a week and therapy weekly.
I hang out with my grandmother.
I interact virtually with my congregation which is nice. I'm hoping to move so that I can be with them in person.
That's about all of my socializing. I'm loving the other responses. They are giving me some ideas to ponder.
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spirit of trees...offer to volunteer at one of those museums
I've already applied for a volunteer role at a museum, although I'm waiting for a slot to open. I'm on my local museum's wait list, so I guess I'll see what happens. I'm also looking at other places to volunteer, e.g. art gallery, library.

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I've already applied for a volunteer role at a museum, although I'm waiting for a slot to open. I'm on my local museum's wait list, so I guess I'll see what happens. I'm also looking at other places to volunteer, e.g. art gallery, library.
I'm just wondering if you like animals if there's a shelter or zoo where you can volunteer?
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Default Jun 15, 2019 at 04:30 AM
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I am in a 12 step program so I guess you would say I volunteer and try and help people. I go into the women's prison to lead meetings. Nothing takes you out of yourself the way volunteering does.

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Default Jun 16, 2019 at 01:45 PM
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I will try to find some volunteer opportunity. They are available, and I've tried in the past, but a couple were more exploitation, a couple were too stressful. I have to look harder.

I'm not particularly religious. What is that humanitarian group Ptak? That sounds lovely!

There was a time when I went to AA, but I stopped. It was triggering. Plus, I realized drinking was strictly self-medication for me, and not true addiction. I no longer feel I fit there anymore. I will look into NAMI programs again. I've attended some. Maybe there is something new.

I am attending a French class every other week. When that ends in a couple months, I'll push myself harder to find something. I have attended one Meet Up and have a couple in the works.

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I am still on disability and really wish there was somewhere to go during the work week (daytime hours) where I could meet new people to make new friends. Yes, I know there is volunteering, but I'm not quite in a work type mode yet. I've tried it and failed a number of times. I know there are daytime classes, but I take a one hour class once per week already, and it's expensive. Everything else seems to cost a lot of money. Many things "out" maybe expose me to people, but not in a socializing sense.

Getting back into socializing more will help prepare me to succeed at future volunteering and eventually a job. But I need to take baby steps.

Pretty much every social gathering (support groups, meetups, book clubs) are in the evenings and/or on the weekends. That's not when I need the extra social interactions. Plus, evenings are hard for me.

I have seen a couple meetups during the daytime hours weekdays, but they seem to be stay at home moms or retirees. I'm neither. I not even a mother and will not be.

Is there anything out there to do? I almost wonder if I should try to start a special daytime workday meetup, but that seems like an overwhelming thing for me to do right now. If I did, the most I'd want to spend is the cost of a coffee at a cafe or maybe a movie or occasional lunch a couple times per month. I am open about the people I'd meet. They need not have a mental illness, but I would want a variety enough to not feel like an odd-woman out (i.e. the only woman not a stay at home mom or retiree).

Unfortunately, I only really feel confident driving 20 miles or less, each way (preferably not all on major highways), from my home. That's another barrier I have to deal with.
Mostly, sit around and do nothing. I like to be in one spot.
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Hang out with my dogs, and run errands, and take me out for coffee.
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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 03:35 PM
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I am on disability (and for a long time, I wasn't) and I haven't worked in years and I have NOTHING to do.

I only just recently got my Driver's License, too.

I came to this forum to find something to do.

I used to spend all my time on another forum but they kicked me out when they learned what my problems were.
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I have a lot of fun hunting down my ancestors on genealogy sites. I meet distant relatives doing the same! We exchange old records, it's very cool.
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I'm not particularly religious. What is that humanitarian group Ptak? That sounds lovely!
There used to be a humanitarian group in my area that was for people who were not religious and didn't necessarily believe in God, but they cared about being good people and being part of a group.

@BirdDancer, French class sounds interesting!
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I'm a computer game developer, I do everything from sound design for the game, to voice acting, drawing, and programming. I'm currently collecting SSI. I do a fair bit of socializing during the day.
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I have my fingers crossed to be approved for SSDI, but that won't even happen for a year. I do creative things...art work, sew, decorate my tiny apartment. I do some chores and take care of my cats. My husband and I have had an online business for ten years, so I do some work on that every day. Run errands. Go to doctor/therapy appointments.

The only socializing I do except for maybe 4 times per year is online.

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I wish I was healthier, then I would eventually get a dog. Now that is out of my reach. Because I feel so different day to day I can't even promise anyone to walk their dogs, they need someone who can do that every day and some days I just don't function.

I more have a hard time with time moving too quickly and I never have the time to do stuff. Just doing normal chores wears me out. I try to go for walks and stuff like that, but that is not always possible.

I cuddle with my cats, I try to eat, watch movies, email and chat with friends and hang out with RL friends. After that I'm done in. I find it amazing that normal people do more in a day than I do in a week, plus they work!

I found a lot of new friends online, one happened to live near me and a few in a city one hour from me. Also we also have an aspie meetup group here. We created that group because there was none in my city. That is always an option if there is no group, you can take charge and create one. At times when you don't meet you can have a mailing list or a forum to communicate. (And yea you can use Facebook but I don't recommend this because there will always be someone who tries not to use FB or is against it, in our group only two people have FB, LOL.)

I did some unpaid stuff, some of it was fun some was stressful. I tutored a girl I met online when she lived in another country, she moved to mine, and she got no help for her learning disability, so I stepped in and helped her a lot with her studies, I spent many hours explaining things. Also I sometimes help out in a cafe where immigrants can meet Swedes and learn from chitchatting. I just go there whenever I want and as a regular guest now, I told them it is too burdening to be one of the leaders.

I guess I rarely get bored, I feel overwhelmed already and even if I don't really seek out social contacts, they happen anyway. I think I'm just lucky in that matter.

I also try to finish one writing project every year, sometimes it works sometimes not.

I have so many interests but I don't have focus, energy and it is hard for me to get going. I used to like to paint and play instruments. That I haven't done in ages. Instead I sing to myself sometimes, LOL. I was in a newbie choir a while but that was too intense for me even if we just met once a week, but was really fun. Long time ago we also had an ad out if someone wanted us (me and best friend), to come groom and pet their horses and sometimes give them exercise. That was mega fun. But also there my energy somehow ended.

Here, night classes is a big thing, you usually go once a week, there is no formal diploma or grades, but you learn what you go there to learn. It can be literally anything, some stuff just needing attendance, some needing studying. Way way back I did pottery. More recently I took Arabic and also British English communication. I liked that stuff because meeting people around a certain task might be easier than just meeting and doing nothing. I tried to work on my British accent, but TV ruined me, LOL.

I seem to be on the other end of the problem of disability. I have tons of stuff I can do but I feel time and energy just disappears away. Can I buy some energy and sell you some of my friends? LOL.

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It looks like rats in your avatar. I've had many rats as pets. I loved them. I miss them. They are so intelligent, interesting, and loyal.

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