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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 12:44 PM
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Wondering if anyone has any experiences or insight on trauma bonding and how one would break this bond?
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Thank you for this post!
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Default Jun 24, 2019 at 08:49 PM
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I had trauma bonded to someone and managed to break the bond. Going no contact was the only thing that worked. It is an absolutely brutal process; Im not going to sugar coat it. Every time I had an urge to contact the person I would have to redirect and distract myself until the urge past. It is essentially breaking an addiction.

The thing is too, in my opinion, the no contact has to last forever. Like any addiction, if you turn back it is so easy to fall into old habits. The plus side? The longer you hold out, the easier it gets. The habit falls out of being a habit.

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Default Jun 25, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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I have experienced this Thanks for this post and for the insightful replies

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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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I had trauma bonded to someone and managed to break the bond. Going no contact was the only thing that worked. It is an absolutely brutal process; Im not going to sugar coat it. Every time I had an urge to contact the person I would have to redirect and distract myself until the urge past. It is essentially breaking an addiction.

The thing is too, in my opinion, the no contact has to last forever. Like any addiction, if you turn back it is so easy to fall into old habits. The plus side? The longer you hold out, the easier it gets. The habit falls out of being a habit.


That is so true. There is no middle ground. It is a very dangerous thing to be caught up in. You just have to end the relationship 100%. Very difficult so get your support system setup.
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 12:04 PM
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I don't have any experience, @Codep, but I'm glad all the other wise, wonderful posters were able to help you and provide LOTS of hindsight! Definitely cut off contacts with whoever is hurting you or making you feel worse! It's not easy but I believe it's the best thing that you can do. Wish you the BEST of luck in your healing and in your life! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Codep, and to all the people you love and who TRULY love you and who WON'T hurt you!
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 04:15 PM
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I was trauma bonded to my ex. I think starting a healing process is a good way to break away. In my case, I broke the bond only when my life was in danger. I definitely do not recommend it. I think seeing a therapist and finding a healthier way to heal is better for you.
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 04:25 PM
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Thanks for this post, Codep. I have issues with this and unwisely am not going no contact. It's like playing with fire, I know. Maybe I'm just not ready. I DO have a journal where I wrote about not getting hovered back in and how I felt and things he did so I'll never forget though. Thanks for the articles, Skeezyks. I'll definitely be reading them.

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Default Jul 05, 2019 at 10:27 PM
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The old Trauma Bond is sure acting up tonight😕😕. Almost 3 years of this. And only 6 months ago is when I figured out there was a term for what I am going through. I really hope I’m not bonded to this man forever. but if it’s like an addiction which I already have 2 major ones I do not have under control, I may never be free 😕
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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 03:05 PM
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Well ask yourself what is important. If what is important is to break free of the addiction then that is an important first step! As time goes by you will investigate what seems to keep you stuck. It might be sex love being lonely the idea of that or a few other reason that maybe maladaptive.
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