Let’s talk baby fever.

My wife has gone baby crazy. She’s shopping online, watching mommy vlogs, thinking of names, etc... if it’s related to babies she’s thought of it.

This has driven a wedge in our relationship, and I admit we did try for a short time. But then quickly realized we weren’t stable enough or healthy enough to procreate.

So me and my wife were laying in bed and we were “discussing” babies for the twelfth time in the past two days. Now I haven’t brought up kids at all in weeks (shows how ready I am) but she always wants to talk about it. This is quite literally all she thinks about and those are her words. Anyways she was saying that guys don’t understand what it’s like to have baby fever. So here I am wanting someone to explain it too me. Because I have never had a huge desire to have kids. I always assumed I would one day and I could see myself as a farther. However the thought of living with just my wife and dogs is a equally enjoyable thought.

Frankly kids freak me out a little. I tend to believe they are rude, mean, stressful, and needy. My wife says it’s different when you have your own kids. But all I can think is how does she know.

Back to my main topic. The only thing I can imagine what baby fever is like to me is not having sex for a couple weeks and being teased relentlessly during that time. But other than that I haven’t a clue.

So ladies and men who have suffered through severe baby fever. Can you help me understand and maybe offer coping advice. This is really putting a strain on our marriage.

I’d say plenty of men really really want kids so they do understand baby fever. It’s just wanting kids very bad and usually it’s when people about to run out of time due to age.

Personally I can’t say I had it. I’d i did, I blocked it. I only have one and I was young but always wanted more and that didn’t work out so I just had to accept it. No need to mope. I now kind of have grand babies fever I think lol As I’d like to have grandkids but I am not going crazy about it.

My daughter really wants children but it doesn’t mean she must have them like today.

I think your wife’s desire to have children right this moment is somewhat unusual as she is quite young and in no position to have children. I am not sure it’s baby fever, seems that maybe attempt in masking all other problems

I think you are smart to have logically made out an argument for why not to - at least at this time. No child should intentionally be brought up in an atmosphere where a parent acknowledges the circumstances would not be the best - especially financial. Caring for a baby is a huge responsibility and making a choice to have one should be made considering the environment it will be brought up in --- for the long-term. What plans has your wife laid out in her argument for such things as child care or if one of you ought to give up a career to rear this child? What plans has she laid out for providing an education? Can you afford extracurricular activities for this child? Has she acknowledged she is willing to make new lifestyle choices and sacrifice most of what she has the freedom to do now?

To be blunt, it sounds a bit like someone wanting a puppy and not considering the responsibilities that come with that. I would say have your wife talk to young mother's but she seems as though she would put on the blinders when it comes to anything negative they might have to say.

This isn't healthy this obsession of hers. You might want to consider, I am sorry to say, whether she might take things upon herself to make this happen without your approval in the matter. You may have to make some boundaries in this respect.

The only way I see confronting this is to tell her you won't participate in this discussion until she can have such a conversation without getting emotional.

Couples counselling is my suggestion.

Baby fever feels like your entire - and I mean entire - mind, body, and soul are vibrating...shimmering with the desperate need, which is a basic instinct, to hold a warm little bundle in your arms and nurture it.


It is my experience that most men who aren't into having a child take one look at their newborn son or daughter and fall completely in love. Ask them if why they never wanted a child and they'll look at you blankly.

If both partners are not wanting kids equally as much it doesnt matter if one of them has baby fever. Its a no go.

I never thought I would have and never wanted children and I am a woman. to my schagrin I got pregnant with my then fiances baby. I wasn't ready for a child and have emotional issues too. I didn.t consider abortion because of my religion. our relationship went under and we split as I learned my then to be husband began drinking too much after my son was born, and all the bad stuff happened. I love my son to pieces and had to make my escape from his dad. I made plans and it is a long story but I am not sorry for having him, he is the light of my life I love him so much. I think I did have a bit of baby fever, but never tried to get pregnant. I think the feeling is really strong when a person loves another so much especially women. human nature plays a role too-look at all of us human beings we are lucky to have been chosen to be born or not.

As far as "mean, rude" children; if you raise them to respect others and areloving and kind parents, more than likely they will BE respectful, kind human beings. I have 2 children and 5 grandchildren; they are ALL kind, loving kids.

You should take your wife to an OBGYN office filled with depressed and stressed out mothers after giving birth. It too me 3 seconds with my severely in pain after a c-section, SIL, and her hormonal emotional outbursts followed by my brother almost dropping the kid because he had no idea what he was doing for me to lose interest.

Oh dang, that my discourage her

Well I’m just going off of my experiences.