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Default Jul 05, 2020 at 09:30 AM
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Every time in my life that I've been in a large group of people, I encountered problems with being picked on and having mental health crises. I'm trying to battle it once again on social media, in a place that's supposed to be safe, but I'm having another crisis.

I can't tell if people paying attention to me are well-meaning but flawed or deliberately trying to hurt me.

I have experienced harassment lately in that environment, and that has made me terrified of everyone else.

If I assume people don't mean me any harm, then I'm running the risk of allowing myself to be publicly abused, but if I assume people are trying to abuse me, I may make myself impossible to be friendly with.

I'm crippled with confusion.
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Default Jul 05, 2020 at 10:44 PM
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Hi, Lara. What do they say or do when they pick on you?
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This is always a dilemma on social media. I've signed into a number of different forums, in the past, only to decide I just didn't fit in. And so I left. There are a couple of forum-type websites I currently visit regularly as a guest now. And I sometimes think about joining. But then I think: oh I'd probably just end up feeling uncomfortable & not fitting in. So I don't. I don't know what the answer is to this problem. But I do understand the crippling confusion you feel. My best wishes to you...

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Default Jul 07, 2020 at 05:24 AM
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Express how you feel when the abuse is ongoing in a manner that is uncomfrontational. Just inform them like its a fact. But when doing it make sure to state that what they are saying or doing is causing you to perceive the situation as this and is making feel like so. ... Their reaction afterwards will tell u of their intent. And honestly if their were being intentional ditch whoever it is they are not worth it. In the other hand mybe itll come out that they handnt realized the damage or hurt they were causing
My advice is communicate clearly in a calm manner what has been bothering you. If they react and attempt to start am arguement do not take then bait. Remain calm explain that you are not attacking them or wanting to fight. U are simply trying to inform of how you saw or perceived their words, actions, or intentions and that they caused unwanted thoughts, and feelings that upset you and exactly what way it is affecting u. When interacting with others and someone disrespects you and u get that knot inside u or ainxt always speak up or else the disrespect and ******** will continue .. You have to stand up for yourself. Just keep in mind that if they are intentionally disrepecting you they are most likely lookinh for a confrontation . Say your piece calmly do not take the bait if they start to flap off . Just continue explaining everything. This simple action, of letting things out snd doing so in a controlled manner allows you to release some of the tension, anger, or frustration thar their ignorance created. .... NEVER LET ANYONR DISREPECT OR BULLY U IN ANYWAY. .. STAND UP, SPEAK UP, RESPECT YOURSELF AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF ESPECIALLY EMOTIONALLUY AND MENTALLY. .. .. I had the same problem and i found this worked amazing. One thing i should give u a heads up on is that if the individuals are looking for conflict cerrtain individuals will continue theit abuse well putting on a.front. trying different angles to attempt to instigate a scene or have to react.to their stupudiry. Yes these few individuals are annoying and frustrating. I have come to the conclusion that certain individuals must be actually retarded. It takes a litlle while of repeating the whole drama however after a bit of you not feeding thier little drama they will of course back of and dispear after a while. ... important points. Do not react, talk and watch the way that you use ur words. Have patience.
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Hello,

If a person is struggling with social gatherings & trusting people, it's okay to pull back a bit on how much you put yourself in those situations you're not comfortable with, otherwise it can be very punishing both mentally and emotionally. Just small amounts at first, and then maybe build up gradually with what you feel you're comfortable with. And have a few boundaries around people with whom you feel you don't connect - that's okay. Just a few self management things.
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Default Jul 15, 2020 at 09:33 AM
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Social Media .... wow. I only add people who build me up and if someone is going to tear me down or not be understanding then i just delete them. or block them.
One of my FB friends said i was being childish by deleting people who disagree with me. I tried to get my point across and i understand his... but. he got rude so i blocked him for a while until i can think of how to express my feelings.
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social situations make me anxious too. I like working from home because there is limited contact with people. Rarely ever been to a company party or social gathering . Family reunions drive me mad.
If you can... just take control over who you spend time or interact with.
I hope you are ok today
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