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Is there a mental illness that causes a person to lie about everything. Things that shouldnt even matter or seem unimportant its still lied about. I need to know what is really going on.
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I am not a personality expert, but folks w various issues in that realm do often lie. Narcissist lie to avoid dealing w feeling inadequate. People w borderline may lie to avoid shame. Etc.
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I have a friend who married a man that she says she didnt marry the man she thought she did. He lies about everything. She said even down to putting on a whole different image of himself. But she says when ever she asks him any kind of question he will just lie no matter what the question is. She has caught him so many times in just stupid lies that she says it makes her sick. Why would someone need to lie to a spouse like that. They are not children and should not have to lie about anything especially to each other. Its not like hes a kid and could be spaked or punished for giving a wrong answer to his parent right ? So i just dont get it. Hes not doing anything that he should feel like he cant just give her an honest straight forward answer. Does he want her to not trust anything he says?
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I married a guy like that too. He also had the belief that if he didn't say anything then it wasn't a lie...like when he didn't tell me about the letter from the IRS about owing back taxes. When I did find out about it he said he couldn't figure out the problem so he just ignored it. I was always cleaning up messes he made & never told me about....but I always found out (33 years I stayed married to that before I had enough & left)
He was diagnosed with adult ADD in his late 50's (obviously had it all along) but what they never added to it because it was newer ex at the time was high functioning ASD. He was constantly full of excuses as to why he couldn't do things that basically normal minds could figure out. We were both computer engineers & he was always giving excuses for things in his career that a wife that wasn't in the same career might buy into but I knew better & didn't let it slide. Constant conflict the whole marriage. After I left I realized that he was incapable of taking responsibility for what he did....maybe because the way his mind worked he didn't even comprehend the problems. Not sure the lies were even actually intentional.....then I caught them & that was when lies turned into excuses & it started getting worse the older he got. There are so many reasons people lie & make lies into excuses for things. Sometimes I think my now EX- husband really couldn't handle a wife that was just as capable (if not more) & the lies & cover-ups were because he didn't want to look like an incompetent husband. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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There are a number of mental health conditions that pathological lying is an aspect of. Then too, some people lie just to cover a truth they don't want someone else to know.
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Mental illness possibility aside...People lie out of fear. Fear of getting in trouble, fear of failure. Fear of not being good enough. Think about some bad lies that have been told....were they not usually based in fear? Then there are people who are just liars. Maybe they have mental illness or a PD but there are some awful people out there who are just bad.
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It’s a common form of escape, even from themselves.
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Apparently, according to his family, Trump lies because he derives pleasure from deceiving others.
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Bottom line.....we as individuals need to get out heads out of the sand & call out all lies & STOP letting people get away with it. It may not stop them from lying but it puts them on notice that we are wise to it & we as an individual won't believe the lies. What others do is there own personal responsibility of how they choose to handle lies. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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I totally agree eskie and I distance from taking in too much of it because you are right in that both sides lie and try to manipulate and gaslight. This is also why a high percentage of Americans do not trust the media too. Also, a high percentage of Americans keep their opinions private too. There is entirely too much anger out there and it's just not worth it to talk about it IMHO.
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Lying can be a pathetic way to keep up the illusion that one is in control. It is a control issue.
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Sometimes lying is just escape. Escape from life. Escape from pain. "How are you?" "Oh I'm fine." When really one is dying inside.
Sometimes lying is just keeping up appearances. Like "How much did that watch cost?" "Oh, $200" when one really got it at a flea market but doesn't want to look cheap or less successful than friends. Sometimes lying is to escape punishment. Mom to kid. "Did you eat that cupcake?" Kid "Nope, wasn't me" Sometimes lying is to gain something like attention or sympathy. "I'm so sick I have the worst cold ever." When one really has a sore throat and a small cough. Lots of reasons for lying. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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mythomania/pseudologia fantastica
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