Unexplained issues Trigger Warning

Rive1976 · Nov 04, 2020 at 09:55 PM

Ever since I was 5 I have had sexual attractions to female mother figures. I am in my 40s and this still happens. I am female as well and I know that if I had that relationship it would change the dynamic and the attraction would go away. Not to mention I dont even like vaginas. I also since around 6 have had horrible sexual anxiety. Any topics of a sexual nature had me hysterical. I also developed innapropriate sexual impulses. I never had fantasies or thoughts like if I do this I will feel xyz. The impulses just arise when Im triggered by someone. I dont want them but I really feel the need to act on them. I literally fight not to act on them. Like my hand will go to commit the action and I will jerk my hand back not to act. Or hold it down. It feels like an invasion of an unknown source and me fighting to stop it. I literally have no memory of why these things started to happen. How do you heal if you don't know the source. Also what the heck is going on with me?

Yaowen · Nov 04, 2020 at 11:51 PM

Dear Rive1976,

I wish I had some insight, but sadly I don't. The human brain is so mysterious. Why does it move us to do the things we do? Why does it sometimes move us in contrary directions? I don't know. Perhaps others here with more knowledge, experience and wisdom will have some helpful information to share with you. So sorry I cannot be helpful to you in this!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

Aviza · Nov 06, 2020 at 11:16 AM

I'd recommend a past life regression. I believe it has to do with a past life. Even a reading from a past life psychic could help.

*Beth* · Nov 06, 2020 at 12:48 PM

I don't think your attraction is unusual. I have known both men and women who were attracted to female mother figures (sexually attracted).

My initial thought is that you work not to judge your impulse. Then find a friend, a female friend, who seems motherly and take it from there. You might need an emotional female friendship, or you might find that, after some time, vaginas aren't so unlikable, after all.

I don't believe that knowing why you have the feelings you do is so important. You can go around in circles with that for years. I believe that moving ahead and allowing yourself to non-judgmentally explore your feelings (because there is absolutely nothing wrong with your feelings...they're not creepy or illegal) is the way to go.

Another option is to find a therapist who is a female mother figure and work on your feelings with her.

Good luck. I think you have a potentially really interesting and perfectly healthy feelings. It sounds like you just need to work on accepting them.

Prycejosh1987 · Nov 30, 2020 at 12:13 PM

You shouldnt do that, or have thoughts of doing that. You could end up in jail if something happens. I would urge you to at least pay for it. Women are cheap on this website. I can have sex with a woman for £30, for half an hour. We all have fantasies, but both parties must, and have to be in agreement for sex to be safe. I think you should get married. That way you can do all your fantasises with no repercussions.

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Aviza Magnate Member Since Jan 2013 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,456 11 86 hugs given	Nov 06, 2020 at 11:16 AM #3 I'd recommend a past life regression. I believe it has to do with a past life. Even a reading from a past life psychic could help. __________________ Son: 14, 12/15/2009 R.I.P. Daughter: 20 Diagnosis: Bipolar with Psychosis. Latuda 100 mgs.
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