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Default Aug 26, 2020 at 03:27 PM
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I have no kids, I have a pup that's about 9 months old.

We were fortunate at our last residence that a couple that had a friendly dog and toddler- my pup got to meet and interact with.
My Pup and the toddler went well with interactions. Pup has done well also with kids, if they've been at dog parks. Along with my friend's niece and nephew. She is still learning to stay seated around all people though.

I moved a few months ago, and there are more kids at my new place but older ((if I had to guess 5 to 12)).

The older kids (maybe 8 to 12) have done pretty well with sitting on the ground with pup and understanding pup maybe a little excited.

The younger ones though.....
There has 0nly been one- She must know a dog as she did the hand sniff and then read if pup was OK with pet. That interaction happened a few days ago..

I was leery at first due to the other three younger kids that are around and how they've acted and treated pup in the few past interactions, i have started to try my best to AVOID them, even though I feel they stalk me sometimes with popping out from a corner to harass me & pup ( ha).

I have been telling the group of small kids "no" on their relentless requests of "can i pet your dog" for a few weeks due to how they have acted and the one blew any further interactions in my mind.

How do they act? I get they are kids but---

Screaming at pup some time- sure they too are excited but they clearly see it excited pup too, and I think make it game to get her wild up then try to bet then tell me my dog is going to bite them.

They've thrown things at her at her to, while just stick and one rock ive been firm to ask please stop and dont do that..

one was yelling she was a bad dog when she wasn't obeying their several commands (she was doing a down stay which was what I asked and I told her she was a good dog and asked them to stop calling her a bad dog).

they don't listen to what I ask, like "let the dog sniff their hand", to go slow, to be a little more calmer if they want her to be calm.

The very last interaction with the little boy who blew it for any future interactions was- he threw candy to the pup-without asking mind you "if he could give her a treat"
I'VE PROVIDED treats in THE PAST* btw

I had to get what I could away from pup, she has a sensitive stomach to begin with.

What got me more -was he then asked to have "his candy back " and I told him no and kept it from him as he gave it to my dog, and informed him that we (pup and me) were going for a walk, that he needed to watch out for the cars as he was in the parking lot while one was rolling in, and he needed to go home.

I don't know how to talk to kids but I tried my best.

Recent interaction with one of the four little kids was fortunately with their parents last week- I appreciated it- the parents to their daughter said that she needed to leave me and pup alone when pup stopped listening and getting too excited. Also to lsiten to me with pup. To not keep pressing to pet the dog.
Thats only one of four though :/

One of the older kids also, his parents and I met- that was a horrible interaction and pup hurt herself with jumping but is ok, just a bump. But the older kids I don't have an issue with they seem to get it more.

I feel bad but not, I feel bad that I am missing an opportunity with pup interactioning with kids, but feel these kids aren't the right example for pup.

Let alone the horrible thought - if pup did nip one of them out of excitement or being scared because they simply dont lsitne to warning- o m f g ... i may lose it and i'd lose my dog.

Any thoughts -

No talking to parents with two of them, their parents - just don't even go there. I tried to simply say hi , and one time a parent was yelling at the kids because they stopped and saw me and pup-- I tried to start a conversation and was shut down like "wtf are you talking to me?" .

Or maybe at most this is just a place to put thoughts

T started to laugh and not listen when I tried to explain the screaming kids one day and them yelling bad dog that I just caved and said yep excited kids just excited

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Default Aug 26, 2020 at 04:38 PM
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I feel bad but not, I feel bad that I am missing an opportunity with pup interactioning with kids, but feel these kids aren't the right example for pup.
I understand wanting to socialize your pup with kids, but some of these kids don't sound like good people for pup to socialize with. If we think of our furbabies as our kids, would you want your human child hanging out with these kids?

Personally I would tell the ones who can't follow your rules to stay away from your pup, then walk away.
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Default Aug 26, 2020 at 04:47 PM
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I think your t isnt seeing, that you arent being SEEN as an adult, not by some of the kids, and not by some of the parents?

I was reading a book review today about the loss of expertise, how nobody is an expert anymore, everybody's opinion counts just as much. Say like about covid and masks. Nobody respects anybody! Thats how it seems to me about other people and you and your dog.

So i think its like when new parents write to dear abby and say, everybody wants to kiss our baby! Abby says, its up to the parents to protect the baby, period, no matter what grandma wants. So basically, you are the boss of your dog. You set the boundaries. No effs given.
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Default Aug 26, 2020 at 11:08 PM
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Thank you both, I've been feeling like I've been harsh on the kids, feel bad.. like I'm that grouchy 'old person ' because I've been saying no and trying hard to avoid them. I try so hard to be responsible, and Unaluna idk if you recall with my other posts but people do seem to undermine me or I feel. I haven't felt that way at my new place with the adults, like the one set of parents with the older kid, the guy was honestly trying to help and pup did jump like she's never did before.
Anyways while I rationalize
still that nagging voice "they're just kids" comes up... and im being unfair but I'm not.
Thanks again and sorry I felt I needed input

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Default Aug 27, 2020 at 03:23 AM
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I was just chuffed that @lizardlady gave the same advice! Shes the real life expert in this stuff here. An she has a dog, and cats, an a horse, an a farm, an works with youth. She has a tshirt that reads, "i know im smart, tell me im beautiful." Its from the '80's.
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Default Aug 27, 2020 at 06:20 AM
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Beauflow, being "a grouchy old person" would be if you told every kid who approached your pup to get away. These are kids you tried to set limits with who would respect those limits. Just like the rest of life, you have the right to set limits with these kids. You are protecting yourself and your pup.

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Default Aug 28, 2020 at 11:38 PM
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I agree. Your pup needs to be kept away from those abusing kids.
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