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Default Aug 28, 2020 at 11:16 AM
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We have two senior dogs, both are doing poorly and it’s time. I thought we were losing just one of them but now it is both of them.

We have just one week left to love on them and spoil them and then we will say goodbye. It’s so hard to lose these babies. I still keep going back and forth between denial and heartbreak even though I know they are not going to get better.

I want to appreciate the blessings they have been in my life. They’ve brought me years of love and happiness. They’ve lived good lives and I especially feel peace in knowing they aren’t suffering and they will go together.... but I’m afraid I won’t be able to emotionally handle this when the time comes... and it’s coming very soon.

Ugh. It is so tough to go through this. This is the worse part about having sweet fur babies. One day they must leave us.
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Default Aug 28, 2020 at 12:17 PM
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Dear LilyMop,

What an utterly heartbreaking situation. My heart goes out to you!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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I’m really feeling for you, losing a pet is always hard no matter the circumstances.
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Default Aug 28, 2020 at 11:36 PM
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I'm sorry. I know what it's like to lose pets--4 so far over the years.
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Default Aug 29, 2020 at 07:56 AM
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Having to put down our furbabies is so tough. I wish I had some magic words to ease the hurt.

Would it help to tell us about your babies?
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Default Aug 29, 2020 at 01:02 PM
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I am feeling so guilty right now.

I took the girls in this morning. They had a rough couple of days. I kept thinking I could have one more week with them. I was so focused on having that little bit of extra time with them that I didn’t give them the compassion they truly needed. Their last couple of days were hard on them and I never wanted that for them.

Both girls were 14. They have been together every single day the past 12 years. They had a brother they lost and grieve over 4 years ago. They got me through some really really tough times in my life. They were sweet but they were sassy little bossy things too.

I wish I had been thinking more logically. I didn’t want to let go. Last night was particularly rough for them and nothing I did was helping them relax. I ended up just at a loss and exhausted while one of them barked a lot. I keep thinking I should have consoled her better and I don’t know what I was thinking. I feel horribly guilty.

I did spend several hours holding and loving on them this morning. We got them to the vet and they were treated so kindly and lovingly by the vet and his vet tech. They got to be together with us holding them until the very end, touching paws.

My heart is broken and the guilt is eating me up.
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Heart Aug 29, 2020 at 02:49 PM
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My heart goes out to you, LilyMop. Having recently lost our Schnoodle, whom we had cherished for 14 years, I feel your pain. We still miss our little guy every day. It is all just SO difficult. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time.
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Default Aug 29, 2020 at 04:33 PM
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LilyMop, please don't guilt yourself. You gave your girls good lives, then ended their suffering. You did a good, loving thing for them.
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Default Sep 02, 2020 at 02:38 PM
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Liz is right in that you did the humane thing by stopping their suffering. However it’s understandable that making that choice can feel wrong even though it’s the merciful thing to do.

I hate having to put an animal to sleep. When we love our fur babies we want to heal them if we can. It’s normal to have a hard time accepting there is no more we can do.
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