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Default Jan 12, 2019 at 07:07 PM
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My partner has been diagnosed with ptsd and autism. We recently got back together last month after he broke up with me in November 2017 over a dramatic misunderstanding. As a result of his decision to break up with me he abandoned his apartment and belongings, gave away his assets and has been living in a shelter for over a year. His only major source of income is ga as he’s been waiting for social security for a year. What my question is what are women in this forum willing to tolerate in the name of love. I’ve caught him in lies about where he’s lived, or how he’s spent his time and he always has an explanation. I know what the people will say who are critical of the situation. What I’m interested in hearing is if anyone had a situation like that and has made it workable.
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I don't have a limit. As long as he's getting help I'm here. If he hurts our son he'd have to leave but I don't think it would end our relationship just really need intensive therapy. Unless it was SA. If it was SA I'd wrap my son up and run. besides that I'm there, for good.

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Do how do you deal with lying?
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I do not deal with lying very well nor would I be dealing with what you are dealing with. Not because he doesnt deserve it but because I need more and he isnt willing to give more. He needs to work on himself thats for sure but that is also something he needs to do solo. If you helping and supporting him helped, he wouldnt still be in the same situation he is in.

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I do not deal with lying very well nor would I be dealing with what you are dealing with. Not because he doesnt deserve it but because I need more and he isnt willing to give more. He needs to work on himself thats for sure but that is also something he needs to do solo. If you helping and supporting him helped, he wouldnt still be in the same situation he is in.


I don’t think I mentioned helping and supporting him. What does that mean to you? He’s not willing to work at this point and I can’t criticize that as I was on social security for 10 years while I was a single mother. My family and friends were very critical of me at the time. He says if he works he’ll have a break down.
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I don’t think I mentioned helping and supporting him. What does that mean to you? He’s not willing to work at this point and I can’t criticize that as I was on social security for 10 years while I was a single mother. My family and friends were very critical of me at the time. He says if he works he’ll have a break down.
By helping and supporting I meant emotionally, not financially.

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Well he has autism and ptsd so what am I supposed to do?
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Well he has autism and ptsd so what am I supposed to do?
I guess what I mean was that he may not change..and he has to be the one to want to change.

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@sarahsweets what’s your relationship like?
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