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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 04:15 AM
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Hi. I’m a new member and would like to share. My husband and I have been married for many years and I am just truly starting to see that I need to be more involved/understand him so that he may make the choice to live for many years. He’s suffered from anxiety/depression for years and it seems that he’s at the point of wanting to give up. He’s a skeptic of therapy (tried a few times), rather not take pills as treatment, and believes he’s failed and will be a burden to me as the years go on. His mental issues affected, I believe, his work. He’s quit every job he’s had (only staying less than 2 years, at most), though he’s got a college degree. He believes that he’s failed and that if he doesn’t find a way to make a living (on his own), life is over. I have encouraged and loved him through the years and I want to believe there’s more I can do for him without enabling him. I am struggling to keep strong because I’m afraid to lose him. Any words of advice or someone struggling with the same, I would love to hear from you. Thank you for letting me voice my concern. Too often, I have felt alone through this whole experience.
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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 01:05 PM
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My husband is bipolar and for many years he went with no medication, he has recently started seroquel and he is a compmetely different person. He usevto do the exact same things, quit jobs, buy unnecessary stuff, no sense of accomplishment in anything he did. Try to get him to just a counselor to start, then see if they can change his mind about getting meds if he needs it. And to be honest i threatened divorce,because its not fair, its one thing to do something about it and its another to refuse.
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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 05:35 PM
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My husband is bipolar and for many years he went with no medication, he has recently started seroquel and he is a compmetely different person. He usevto do the exact same things, quit jobs, buy unnecessary stuff, no sense of accomplishment in anything he did. Try to get him to just a counselor to start, then see if they can change his mind about getting meds if he needs it. And to be honest i threatened divorce,because its not fair, its one thing to do something about it and its another to refuse.
Hi Goldengirl1988. Thank you for for sharing. My husband has seen a therapist, but like everything he tries, he only commits a few times before saying “it doesn’t work.” I think low-dosage medication may help, but he can be really stubborn. I recently suggested an online support group to him and he wasn’t exactly interested. How did you get your husband to even consider meds, if you don’t mind me asking.
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Default Mar 30, 2019 at 02:44 AM
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Has your husband given you a real reason for not wanting to take medication? Or does he give a general reason like " I do not want to rely on pills"?

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Default Apr 07, 2019 at 02:14 AM
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My husband is the same. I finally put my foot down and told him if he doesn't get help, our marriage won't last. We start marriage counseling next week. I'm hoping the psychologist can help convince him to get treatment.
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