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Hello,

I am writing because I am in great need of advice for my husband. We 've married for 2.5 years and since the beginning we had problems in our marriage. Some months before our marriage we had to live in different towns due to our jobs. The day right after our wedding I found out that he cheated on me during that period with a foreign girl, I found a note she left for me in a make up palette that I had left in his house, during one of my visits there.

I wanted to get a divorce, but the fact that I loved him, that he begged for my forgiveness and the conservative family background made me to decide to give him a second chance. But right after mental issues surfaced. All started by telling me that this girl has hacked his e-mail account, later on that she was put on purpose to seduce him and some months after he insisted that someone wants to harm him and spies on him using the modern technology.

He forbade me to use my I Phone or my PC in his presence. In the meanwhile we had moved from his hometown to mine and he has already create problems with my family (at the moment both parts don't want to see or speak to each other), he moved from the apartment that I had inherited by my grandfather to live separately in another apartment. If I visit him or want to stay with him, I have to deactivate my phone, not use a laptop or tablet, the windows are permanently closed.

Hence I can' t do my job,which requires to be accessible 24/7. He insists on his thoughts that someone spies him, he has lost a lot of weight, wears the same clothes for days. I contacted his elderly parents who told me that can't convince him to have a mental examination, his friends told me the same, there aren't other relatives to speak to and he's doing a high responsibility job.

I don't know what to do, since our marriage was already a mess, as a couple the last 2 years we don't have any physical contact and I am afraid to file a divorce because I don't know what his reaction will be. How can I convince him to visit a psychiatrist? I don't want to leave him in this situation, because I know that no one else will be there for him.

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Would he be willing to go to a psychiatrist with you or another family member? I wonder if he saw it as something he wasn't doing alone, he might be more willing. It might be good to contact a psychiatrist and get their advice.
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What does his family say?
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