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Magnate
Member Since Jul 2013
Location: United States
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#1
Good thing I am already in therapy. How am I suppose to deal with this?
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Member Since Oct 2015
Location: The Star of the North
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My best wishes to you both.
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Poohbah
Member Since Dec 2015
Location: Phoenix
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I think this forum will be great for you. Also get on the website for the American Cancr Society. They have tons of information and I think a forum there also. Cancer cure rates are much better than in the past. I have4 cancer survivors in my family-YAY! My brother is past chairman of the board of the Am Cancer Society worldwide. You may enjoy participating or watching their events to get out and feel a part of things.Dont forget to take care of YOURSELF. I am a medical advocate for my ex, and it really is necessary to get out on ones own and use many ways to recharge YOUR batteries!.
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Location: North Carolina
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MoxieDoxie, I'm sad to hear about your husband. We are here to support you, too. Please keep us informed.
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Grand Magnate
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Location: Islandia
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I am sorry Moxie Doxie. Hope he can get treatment and have a chance to get better.
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Magnate
Member Since Jul 2013
Location: United States
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My husband had surgery Monday to remove the tumors in his bladder. I was alone in the waiting room all day. It was a day surgery as they went through his penis sending him home with a catheter and a bleeding penis. It has been draining taking care of him and still working. Making sure he constantly drinks, eats, takes his meds, keeping him comfortable. Then he gets constipated. I get him what the doctor suggested which helped but now he has a big hemorrhoid.
My identity right now is wrapped up in being his caretaker. We still do not know the stage of his cancer until the pathology report comes back. Who takes care of me during this time? I have no friends here or family. My sister knows what is going on but choses not to at least check in on me. I have one friend who knows and I vented to her on Wednesday morning. She has not checked in on me and who can blame her? Who wants to talk to someone who is in emotional mess and full of grief? __________________ When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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