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Default May 08, 2019 at 12:31 PM
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I just don't know how to handle this situation. My brother has struggled with schizophrenia for 40 years ( let's call him Don). He's 62 years old and has been living with my mom the entire time. She's coddled him to the point that he's very dependent.

Now Mom is dying and she doesn't have much more time. My other brother, Tim, is dying of cancer and he also will be gone soon. I live in New Mexico and he's in Maryland. We have aunts, uncles and cousins in Maryland.
I live in my RV and travel a lot.

I don't know what to do with Don. I think he's capable of living more independently, but I'm not sure.

I don't want to find a place for him in Maryland and leave to return to New Mexico. I don't know if anyone would go to see him. I don't know how well he'd do on his own after living with mom all these years.

I'm having such a hard time wrestling with this. Does anyone have any ideas for me? Thanks so much.
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Default May 12, 2019 at 01:22 PM
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Ask him what he wants? He may have sz but he’s still an adult...is he on disability? Does he have a case worker?

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Default May 14, 2019 at 02:22 PM
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He is so disabled by sz that he hardly ever talks and just shakes his head. Honestly, I don't know how clearly he thinks.

As far as I know he has no case worker. There's a lot I don't know as he's been living with my mom for the last 35 years. Mom has never mentioned one.

He is on disability.

I'll see if I can talk to him.

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Default May 15, 2019 at 04:00 AM
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I would work on looking into disability services and a case worker now before your mom dies. Regardless of how you think he may be able to live on his own, he has been dependent on your mom all this time and will need transitional assistance. What does his doctor say?

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