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Location: Seattle, Washington
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I haven't been on here for a very long time, and I hope to remedy that here soon. Life can give you the worst detours sometimes....
That said, I'm the primary caregiver for my husband who is currently diagnosed with several anxiety disorders (general anxiety, agoraphobia, and PTSD), as well as BP2 and BPD. We lived in Seattle for about 8 years and was forced out of the city due to gentrification, rising cost of housing, and the loss of health insurance. For the past year we've been up in Alaska visiting family and now it's time for us to get to a place where access to better healthcare and more affordability. We have been discussing Eugene, Oregon, but haven't decided on it yet. Mostly due to the fact that we have no support system and I'm so burned out that I'm not being the caregiver I need to be. His mother is as supportive as she can be, but had health issues of her own. My family is in denial and entrenched in their dogmatic religious belief system that I can't go to them for help either. We are both terrified of the trip there. He's afraid of what could happen and be the end of it all. All of the research I've down and people I've talked (and that includes the crisis/suicide hotline) to says he can get the help he needs one we get there. But it's the trip from here to there that's tripping us up. He wants the help so badly and doesn't want his life's to end. |
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Every detour is another opportunity. Take it for what it is. For someone with agoraphobia, moving, traveling and uprooting himself again so soon, may be a difficult task. What are his fears and restrictions? Finding affordable living is very important, and so is keeping relations with family, healthcare and planning your next move. If your family refuses to see things your way, do not close the door but showcase your decisions in making a better life for yourself. Maybe that means making a few sacrifices, compromises and allowing time to pass and hot items to cool. Try not to force anything. See what life has to offer you.
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When we relocated to Seattle back in 2010, things got so bad that his bp went up to stroke levels. This particular move will definitely a much harsher affect on him. It's more than just just rolling with it and more is at stake than the last time.
Disregulation has been at an all high as well. We have had to temporarily block my family due to the fact that their religious beliefs were similar to what he was brought up with. These belief systems was what caused much the mental health issues. This is not to bash any one for their belief systems, some people just don't represent their faith to well. It's very frustrating. |
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Perhaps you or you and a friend could go ahead and set things up so he wouldn’t be so stressed. My husband has serious medical problems and I usually plan and implement everything anyway, so thats how we do it. We moved 3 times total before finding the house we bought in Phoenix and it was a big success. Good luck!
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We would do that if it was affordable. No such luck comes to those of us who struggle with mental illness and live at the poverty level.
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We’ve moved cross country several times.
Make your prescriptions as low cost as possible and save for 2 months of medication. Make appointments now for the week your moving and send your current record. We sell everything and bring mainly a couple of clothes and electronics. Start off in a tiny place. Usually the first thing we get is a cheap futon. It’s less stressful to start off with nothing for us. __________________ Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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We pretty much got rid of everything, but what was absolutely necessary and put it in storage.
We pretty much got screwed over with the meds issue due to the fact that we were screwed over by the system to gain access to health insurance. Won't be able to take care of that until we get to where we're going to. Pretty much have followed what we can do. I'm burned out as the caregiver and starting to buckle under the pressure. My husband's nervous system is so shot, he's barely keeping it together. We get told to call the crisis hotline , they tell us to go the ER, or someplace that can help, but we're either not residents of the state we're in and suggest getting back to Seattle (which is were we're technically residents at) but that's the place that is having such a housing/homeless situation, that caused everything to go south in the first place. The health care system doesn't care about people like us. |
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